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If you meet someone online, are set up on a blind date or just ask someone out who you’ve never met before, it’s not that tough to tell if she likes you. If you never knew each other before, there is little pressure to sugar coat things. If she’s not feeling you, she just won’t call you back or she’ll drop the “Let’s just be friends line.” The tricky situation involves the woman you already know as a friend or acquaintance. Since it can be torture to see a woman week in and week out that you’re trying to take things to the next level with, but don’t know whether or not to cross that line, let’s put you out of your misery, shall we?

She’s talking up a friend

If a woman is telling you how wonderful, how gorgeous and how funny her friend is, she’s not into you. And she’s either doing this because it never even occurred to her that you were into her—which is no good because that means she felt no sexual vibes coming from you and she has friends zoned you—or, because she does know you’re into her and wants to deflect the attention. But, let it be known, if a woman is ever trying to set you up with somebody else, she has firmly made the decision that she does not and cannot see you as more than a friend. If a woman has any inkling she might be attracted to a guy at present, or in the future, she doesn’t go pimping him out.


You always hang out in a group

If a woman is interested in you as more than just a friend, she’ll eventually try to get you alone. She won’t necessarily ask you out on a date, but she might offer you her second ticket to an event, or ask you to accompany her to a very “datey” event like an office party or a wedding. But if a woman consistently only invites you out in a group, or even worse invites friends along when you try to get her alone, she is trying to avoid any situation in which you could make a move.


She laughs at your compliments

So, you’ve tried to make it apparent you’re attracted to a woman. You make comments about how gorgeous she is, or how amazing she is, and she just gives you a sarcastic laugh and changes the topic. That’s because a compliment is an opportunity for a connection. If you tell a woman she’s beautiful, and she looks you in the eyes and thanks you, you’ve officially had “a moment.” Women are fully aware of the damage that could be done if a guy they aren’t into compliments them, and they don’t allow that “moment”  to happen. She’s not laughing and turning away every single time on accident.

She hesitates when you try to make plans

Women forget themselves and their schedules when they’re into a guy. If you ask a woman who likes you if she’d like to go do a certain thing on a certain date, doesn’t matter what it is, she’s saying, “I’d love to!” before you finish your sentence. Maybe later she’ll realize she had plans that day. But always later, when she’s come back down off that cloud of giddiness. If a woman is not into you, she’ll hesitate when you ask her out. You’ll hear a lot of, “Oh…” and “UM…” and “Let’s see, Thursday you said?” before she answers. That gives her time to think up an excuse, or to ask herself, “Do I want to hang out with this guy?” and the moment a woman is asking herself that, it’s because she doesn’t.

She never texts

Women are texters! You know that. We text our friends every little detail of our day. And we scrutinize over something—anything—to text a guy if we like him! We look for excuses everywhere we turn to reach out. A woman who just sees you as a friend will probably only text to make plans. A woman who likes you will text you funny stories from her day, pictures of shirts she thinks you’d like, pictures of herself…If your phone is dead silent, she’s not into you. Also, if you reach out to her and she is short in her responses—maybe just answering your questions, but not prompting on the conversation—she’s not into you.

She talks about other guys

Sometimes women do this to make a guy jealous when they’re actually interested in him. When that’s the case, they’ll do it in a joking manner. But, never will a woman start seriously talking about her date with someone else, or gloating about someone else, in front of a guy she is into. She would want him to know she is totally available. Don’t even tell yourself, “Well, she can date more than one person!” Sure—she can. But if that other person she wanted to date were you, she wouldn’t be talking about the first one in front of you. If she’s talking about a guy in front of you, you’ve been friends zoned. Think about it: girls talk about guys with their girlfriends.

She never dresses up for you

Pay close attention to what a woman wears around you. Jeans and a sweater are one thing. Baggy, unflattering jeans, a hooded sweatshirt, wet hair and crusty mascara from last night flaking off is another. If a woman genuinely does not give a damn how she looks in front of you, she is not into you. Even when a woman is trying to go casual in front of a guy she likes, she at least makes it cute by doing her makeup and putting her hair together. So, is your love interest just pretending to be casual? Or is she a straight up mess in front of you?

She’s too comfortable

She talks about her periods, some weird wart downstairs, being constipated and how ugly her underwear is because she’s out of clean laundry. Women only talk about these things in front of two kinds of people: their long time boyfriend, or their friend. It is not a good thing if a woman has become this comfortable in front of you. It means she feels she needs to make no impression on you. For a woman to be into a man, she needs to always feel a little bit on her toes. And if she’s asking you to pick her up a box of tampons, well, she’s not on her toes then. She’s probably got her zit cream on and a box of ice cream ready for when you get over.

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