Acknowledge Hurt Feelings
The worst thing you can do after a big blow up is act like nothing is wrong when you’re still harboring resentment or hurt feelings. It’s okay to be a little broken and bruised emotionally after a fight, and your partner is probably still feeling the residual effects of the argument as well. You may be wondering if you’ll break up, or if what you argued about is something you can resolve, which is scary. But not facing it only makes the fear grow stronger.
It’s okay to say, “I’m upset that we fought” or “I feel bad about our fight and I’m still a little upset.” Acknowledging pain is a form of acceptance rather than avoidance, and it’s normal to feel the way you do. Allow the feelings to come with the understanding that feelings are temporary, and hopefully time will heal all wounds.