The New Dating Norms: 6 Big Changes in the Dating Game

Sex on the First Date 

I remember hearing a song on my Pandora and the lyrics were in reference to a man and woman who had sex on the first date. Contrary to what you might assume, the man actually respected the woman’s choice to go after what she wants. When I heard this song, I was confused. Reminding myself of all the things I had heard my guy friends say, you would think that most men believe that a woman who gives it up that fast can be categorized as being a little bit too friendly. These were the kinds of women that you “hit it and quit it,” as some would say.

But I find that as we get older and more mature there is less room for labels, and more room for people to do what they feel. While some used to be quick to label a woman, now a woman can often get kudos for going after what she wants. A lot of women are saying the double standard is unacceptable (i.e., It is okay for a man to sleep with as many women as he wants, but women who want and do the same get labeled a hoe) and freely being sexual beings. Plus, I know women who’ve had sex on the first date and are now in committed relationships with the same person. It isn’t always so cut and dry.