If dating feels like a demanding full-time job, you’re not alone. A 2020 Pew Research study revealed that nearly half of U.S. adults feel dating has become more challenging over the past decade. Fortunately, Dr. Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., a relationship expert at DatingAdvice.com, offers simple and effective strategies to help us secure a first or second date, making the dating process a little less overwhelming.
1. Don’t share too much about your personal life.
During an interview with the New York Post published on March 17, Dr. Orbuch warned that sharing too much about your personal life on the first date could overwhelm the person who is trying to get to know you. While you might feel comfortable discussing sensitive topics like family matters or that one cousin you can’t stand, doing so could make your date feel like they already know too much about you, leaving little room for curiosity and further connection.
“When first meeting your date, it’s key not to overwhelm them with your childhood trauma or who your favorite middle school teacher was,” Orbuch said. “Many daters make the mistake of sharing too much about themselves too soon. On a first date, you want to leave them interested and wanting more.”
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