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Man holding hands with another woman behind his girlfriend's back on bench in park. Love triangle involved in mate poaching

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Being cheated on is one of the most emotionally painful experiences. If you’ve been through it, then you know. It might have even caused trust issues that you are still working through. Nobody ever thinks that it will happen to them. But according to research published in LiveScience, between 20 to 25 percent of married men and between 10 to 15 percent of married women cheat. So while nobody thinks infidelity will happen to them, only approximately 75 to 90 percent turn out to be correct.

There are many reasons people claim to cheat. Research published in Scientific American shows that “anger, self-esteem, lack of love, low commitment, need for variety, neglect, sexual desire, and or situation or circumstance” are the eight top reasons cheating occurs. However, there’s a deeper, more profound reason for cheating: the cheater’s personality type. Almost anyone who engages in dating and relationships will experience all of the conditions listed in those reasons for cheating. But not everyone will respond by cheating. So the missing piece of the puzzle is personality.

Now, there is research specifically on people involved in cheating – but not just anybody. The “poacher.” Relationship poaching is the term for someone who actively tries to steal someone who is already in a committed relationship. Technically, they are cheaters, too. If you’re worried the threat to your relationship is coming from the outside — in other words, mate poaching — research out of The Journal of Sex and Research found what kind of people poach. Here’s what we learned.

 

Poachers Are Active

According to the study, 70 percent of people admit that someone has tried to poach them from a committed relationship. So next time you suspect someone is trying to steal your partner and anybody – including your partner – says you’re being paranoid, the statistics say otherwise.

The reason poaching is so common can be connected to another phenomenon: serial monogamy. MADAMENOIRE covered the topic extensively, but put simply, we know there are many individuals who will do anything to never be alone. They’re more prone to relationship hopping (always looking for the next best thing), which could make them more vulnerable to poaching.

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