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I have to admit that we really didn’t need this last episode of “Married at First Sight.” I think we’re pretty clear on where each of these couples stand even if we don’t know what they’ll say on decision day. Still, last night’s episode only reinforced the problems that we’ve been witnessing all season. So we might as well get on with it. But we’re not there yet. So we’ll dive into what happened as the couples spend their last day together before they ultimately had to make a decision. Check it out below.
Jacob
Y’all know Jake is petty boots. But I can’t help but like him. Now, he should have communicated with Haley about leaving the retreat early. But he had a good reason. Though Jake and Haley are telling their friends and the camera that they have an open mind and “haven’t given up,” we all know what’s going to happen. It’s a wrap.
Haley
Haley didn’t even confront Jacob about leaving early because it’s finished. These two are not accountable to one another. And while she might have pretended just because, Jacob is not about that life. He doesn’t see them as a unit. And I think that’s the whole point of the show. If you don’t feel it, can’t see it, then you might as well throw the towel in. Haley claims that she and Jacob were in a good place on the days following up to decision but good for them is just simply cordial. And that’s not enough.
Erik
Lord, Erik was laying it on thick last night. Homeboy does not want to be left. And he said it outright. He has a fear of being alone. And I think that was the source of his tears. I do think he cares about Virginia but not enough to make any significant changes to his lifestyle. And that is where they’ll always bump heads. It’s fascinating to me that before decision day, he’s suddenly become so much more accommodating in terms of their living situation, when that was a hot button issue for the two of them for weeks. What Virginia says about him is true, it’s hard to determine whether he’s just saying she wants to hear or he’s going to do what he says. I’d put my money on the former and not the latter.
Virginia
I sincerely hope Virginia walks away from Erik on decision day. I’m not certain that she will because these two claim to love one another. But the thing is, she’s not ready to change some of her more single ways. And at 20-something, I think that’s fine. More than that, Erik is not the type of husband to be flexible with her freedom. He always says she can do what she wants. Of course she can—but her doing what she wants will ultimately cause conflicts in their marriage. And that’s where the problems lie. Also, it’s clear that Virginia doesn’t trust Erik. She doesn’t trust his word, doesn’t entirely trust him with her feelings etc. They might stay together on decision day but I don’t see it for these two long term.
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Briana
Briana called Vincent unorganized and as with any form of criticism, it made him shut down and act like a bit of an a$$hole. Instead of weighing her words and the intention behind them, Vincent lashed out and said that her being “direct and assertive” was not something he wanted in a partner. He took it a step further by saying her family labeling her as “bossy” was a turn off for him.
Briana tells her mother that that is just who she is and she’s not in the business of changing for anyone. She’s right. She shouldn’t change. And I would even argue that Vincent would not want to be with someone who didn’t communicate directly—especially with his own communication issues.
Still, as we’ve seen throughout the season, Briana could stand to learn to compromise. She doesn’t have to change who she is. But she can be a little more flexible and recognize that things won’t always go her way.
During her last dinner with Vince before decision day, she said that she doesn’t ever want to be a turn off to him. It was a sweet sentiment but also a bit unrealistic. For most people, if you’re with someone long enough, something they do will eventually turn you off. And that’s okay.
Vincent
Overall, I like Vincent. But he has some maturing to do when it comes to taking criticism. I understand that past partners may have been hypercritical. But after two months, I would think he knows Briana well enough to know that she’s not trying to attack him or his character. Did she have to mention he was disorganized in that moment? No. But he should ask himself, is she saying this to hurt me. If he asked that question, he would recognize that the answer is no.
Instead, he took offense and immediately lashed out with what he didn’t like about Briana. And his delivery was much more malicious and sharp. He needs better coping and communication methods.
Thankfully, later in the episode Vincent acknowledged that he can shut down and his attitude can be terrible. Yeah bruh. The first step to improving is recognizing the problem. I think he’ll get it together. This isn’t something I think she should leave him over. But it will take time and it is very annoying in the interim.
And can we talk about the way he left Briana–what was that about?!
Also, what was Vincent thinking cutting my good sis’ braids? Wanting to take braids out and being ready to commit to that hours-long process are two different things.
Ryan
Chile. I don’t get Ryan. He’s a man of faith but he doesn’t show in belief in things he can’t quantify. Make it make sense. He wants Clara to take a personality test and there were times he looked a little shook up by her responses. But he knows all of this about her. Ryan doesn’t need additional data points. He needs to consult his feelings, his intellect and his past experiences with Clara to make a decision. Everything is not practical—especially not love—which might have something to do with the fact he’s never said it to anyone.
Clara
Clara is head over heels. Someone said Ryan must be showing her something off camera that we are just not privy to. That’s certainly possible. I also think Clara is in love with the idea of love and now that the experiment is ending, is willing to do anything to keep it. At this point, she’s even lying to friends (and maybe herself) about the nature of her entire relationship. Sis said she had no complaints about her marriage, that it was a 10/10 with no issues, despite the fact she’s been sexually unfulfilled and is worried Ryan might not be as invested in her as she is in him. Like, those are pretty serious issues.
