What To Know If You’re Over 50 And Online Dating
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Julia Austin
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Look at the whole picture
Is it wisdom or is it your prison? Hoffman says as a way of protecting ourselves, we might decide that any person who has a quality similar to someone who it didn’t work out with isn’t the one for us. “If we had experiences that went a certain way, we’ll make up a lesson from that. And we see anyone else who aligns with some part of that story as someone we cannot be with,” Hoffman says. “For example, it didn’t work with a Christian once. Or someone with kids once. So now I will never date someone like that again. We make our box smaller and smaller. A lot of my work is getting people to take away the walls and see what really matters in the connection.”
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