But you don’t feel lost without him
Even though you miss him a lot while he’s out of town, you don’t feel lost and identity-less. Your partner very much encourages you to have a life of your own and friends of your own. He encourages you to be independent and strong, so you still have plenty of fun when he’s gone. You just miss him. If, however, you feel lonely, lost, and like you don’t know who you are when he’s gone, you may be in an unhealthy, codependent, and possibly possessive relationship. If he doesn’t like you to have a life of your own, then you’re naturally lost and lonely when he’s away.