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It’s unrealistic to expect that you and your partner will feel in sync every day for your entire lives. You have separate lives, outside this relationship, in addition to the life you share together, so when you come together at the end of the day, you aren’t always in the same mood. At various points in life, one or both of you could go through something that is so all-consuming that you couldn’t possibly feel like you were on the same page with anyone—your partner, best friend, or anybody. That’s to be expected.
However, when we do find our person—that someone who really understands us—part of the beauty of a good relationship is having access to that feeling of coming home, of feeling safe, and of feeling understood even when life seems to make no sense. When you have that bond with somebody, it’s a gift that makes you feel like, no matter what happens, you’ll never feel alone. No matter what else is happening in your life, it’s a good life because you have your partner through it all.
Keeping that bond doesn’t just happen, though. If you aren’t careful, it can slip away. One day of feeling disconnected turns into a week which turns into a month which turns into a year. Suddenly you just don’t know how you’ll ever find your way back to each other. The truth is that, you have to make the effort regularly to fine-tune and maintain that bond or it can slip away and you’ll feel out of sync. So be aware if that’s happening. If you get ahead of it, you won’t find yourselves feeling totally disconnected. Are you and your partner out of sync? Here are some signs.
You’re energized when he’s tired
When you finish your day so excited to talk, tell him everything, and have some fun, he’s just not there with you. You almost feel like a little kid annoying the adult in the room because you’re trying to crack jokes and liven things up. And he’s giving you almost nothing, and looks totally exhausted.
