I have a good girlfriend who is bisexual, and married to a man. She sometimes vents to me about the dumb questions people ask her—or comments people make—about how she can be bisexual and married to just one person. How can she be happy with just one gender for the rest of her life, if she’s into men and women? My friend will roll her eyes and scoff at these comments. I usually just laugh along with her and pretend that I totally understand why that question is so stupid. But I finally just confessed to her, “Um, I’m sorry if this is annoying but, I’ve actually kind of wondered the same thing…” I didn’t doubt that she could be happy and faithful in a heterosexual marriage—not one bit. I was just curious about it. Luckily, she responded in kind, and we went over some of the assumptions people make about bisexual individuals in heterosexual marriages. Here is why those can actually be perfectly happy and healthy arrangements.
Finding the one eliminates the rest
Finding your person—your one—suddenly makes all the other ones disappear. You have tunnel vision and you just see your person. This person, with his or her traits, is the person you want to spend forever with. You don’t want to shop around anymore.