When You’re The One Friend In The Group Who Doesn’t Want Kids
It appears that I’m the only friend in my friend group who won’t be having kids. I didn’t realize that I hadn’t spoken to all of my friends about where they stood on the matter—I only realized it when they started announcing their pregnancies and I realized oh like you’re keeping the baby. This is an official announcement, that has been printed, put in a cute envelope, sealed with a bow, and now sits on my refrigerator. It’s not a private, “Sh*t—I’m pregnant” text from a friend. I’ve come to terms with the fact that all of my friends are becoming moms, and that changes things. They’ve mostly come to terms with the fact that I’m not coming a mom, though some still make their little comments suggesting it’s sad or even selfish (not true, by the way). We’re figuring out our new equilibrium. But, the conversations can be clunky because my friends are planning and thinking and breathing motherhood, and I’m not. Here’s what it’s like when you’re the one friend who doesn’t want kids.
Home-buying talks are weird
We’re all talking about buying property. We’re at that phase of life. But I’m over here looking at two-bed, two-bath condos with a sick pool on the property and proximity to bars and restaurants. My friends wouldn’t dare look at a condo—they want a yard for their kids. The places that I think are a great investment seem like a terrible idea to people who want kids.