The Myth Of Women “Giving Up On Themselves” In Relationships
Listen to five male standup comedian’s specials and I’d bet money that at least three of them have some jokes that they find wonderfully-clever about how women “let themselves go” in relationships. Maybe they’ll be some line like “Where did her eyebrows go?” or “I didn’t recognize her without her makeup on—I thought she was someone robbing my place!” Yes, yes very funny. The truth is, the men who make jokes like this have never really been in a long-term, loving, healthy, committed relationship. I make those distinctions because we all know plenty of people who have been in tons of long-term unhealthy, toxic relationships. But as for those in the healthy, happy ones, we all know that that transition that occurs between being all put-together around our man to being more lax about it isn’t about “letting ourselves go.” It’s more delicate and actually charming than that.
We’re spending every night together
When things get serious, you start spending every night together. Every. Single. Night. Maybe in the beginning, when it was just one or two nights a week together, you could go to bed with makeup on, pretending you just look like that, knowing it would clog your pores. But when you’re together every night, you just can’t do it. It’s bad for your skin.