What are you supposed to do when your good friend becomes somebody’s sidepiece? Truly, could somebody tell me? Because it’s happening right now and I find myself in complicated and delicate conversations and situations with her all of the time. You know all of the rules that apply to interacting with a friend’s boyfriend? Yeah, well, those don’t apply when he isn’t her boyfriend—he’s somebody else’s—and you all know it. Then there are the rules around how you talk to a friend about her relationship. Those, again, do not apply here because she isn’t in a relationship. She’s in a…situationship…if you will. And a bad one, at that. Nobody wishes for their good friend to be anybody’s sidepiece. You want your bestie to be someone’s main squeeze. It’s just a sticky situation. This is what it’s like when your best friend is a sidepiece.
When they fight, you hope it’s over
Every time they fight, you hope it’s the big one—the fight that ends it all. You are actively rooting against this relationship. Oh wait, that’s right—it’s not a relationship. But you feel a little guilty hoping that this whatever it is ends. You know your friend would be hurt, but she’s also hurting herself by being in this.