How The Good Cop/Bad Cop Parenting Dynamic Ruins Marriages
And they keep things from the bad cop
The kids eventually start keeping secrets from the bad cop. If they break something, get a bad grade, or do something for which they could get in trouble, they go to the good cop—he won’t be as harsh. What’s worse is they say, “Please don’t tell the other parent.” And the good cop keeps that promise, because he wants his kids to trust him.