When my partner and I are doing the nasty, I sometimes sense him directing me/navigating the interaction into something that I think he saw in some adult films. I don’t tell him, of course, that I think that’s what’s going on because it would pull us out of the moment. But sometimes the directions are so specific that I just feel as if he is going off a visual map in his head from something he has seen before. And then, recently, he blatantly said to me, “I saw this type of underwear on a stripper in a movie. I’m into it. Would you consider wearing it for me?” So then he just honestly admitted he was recreating something from the somewhere…else. But you know what? It didn’t bother me. Some women find it disturbing if their partners want them to do things that they’ve seen adult film stars or strippers do. But I really didn’t mind. In fact, I was thrilled that he asked. I don’t think it should disturb us if our partners want us to help them recreate things they’ve seen on a laptop or…on a stage. I actually think it’s healthy. Here is why.
I’m flattered he sees a resemblance
Honestly, I’ve seen some of the stuff he watches on XXX websites. Those women are in shape. I’m glad that he thinks I resemble them enough that having me recreate what they do really makes the experience feel like an authentic recreation for him. I’m not saying that I generally want to look like an adult star but, personally, knowing the types he’s into, I am flattered he sees a resemblance.