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Personally, I think that online dating can bring out some unfortunate behaviors in all of us, even those of us who are typically emotionally stable and mentally strong. But, the very nature of interacting with someone who cannot see you in person right away allows us to be dishonest, unreliable, and even a little manipulative should we choose to be. It’s easy to give into some behaviors of which you aren’t proud. So, for those struggling with mental illness such as borderline personality disorder where every day is already such a battle to avoid destructive behaviors, online dating can be especially problematic. I actually have two very close friends who suffer from borderline personality disorder and occasionally attempt to online date. But, both have found that it seems to trigger their disorder and if they are going to reinforce healthier patterns in themselves, it is best for them to date people within their network, and go out with people they have met in person, perhaps through a friend. Here is how online dating can be problematic for those with borderline personality disorder or BPD.
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It is very easy to cancel
It is easy to cancel on someone when you will not see his face when you do it. It is even easier to cancel on someone when you’ve never even met. All of us are guilty of flaking on online dates, because they did not feel real to begin with.
