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Men and women may have totally different perspectives on power, career, life, and love, but when it comes to sex, we are all in agreement. A new study from the University of Waterloo asked 100 hetero couples in long term relationships what kind of issues they deal with in their sex lives.

For both genders, the top sex concerns included frequency of sex, initiation of sex, and showing interest in sex with their partner, The Globe & Mail reports. 

Lead author on the report, Siobhan Sutherland said of the findings,  “It was amazing that not only did men and women report the same problems, they also reported them in the same order.”

The sex problems are all connected to the deep desire to feel wanted and sought after.

“All of these issues, if you look at them together, relate to sexual desire,” Sutherland said. “This tells us that men and women agree that desire problems are the top issues in their relationship.”

Okay, so if everyone agrees that they need to be having more sex, how are there so many issues? Turns out gaps in communication are causing gaps in connection.

“Couples may be agreeing on the nature of the problem, but we don’t know that they’re on the same page in terms of wanting more or less of these things,” she said. “So that’s kind of a direction for followup.”

This report tells us we don’t have to be afraid of expressing our needs–your partner may be feeling the exact same way as you do! Bedroom problems can’t be solved in the dark…emotionally. Once you illuminate the root of the issue, you and your partner are free to get naked and comfortable both mentally and physically.

Even if men and women tend to disagree on everything, feeling desired is one common denominator we can all understand.

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