In 2016, Cyn Santana made some interesting comments on Angela Yee’s Lip Service show. In case you missed the memo, she shared why she prefers dating Black men to Latino men.
“I just love Black guys and Spanish girls together … y’all can keep the Puerto Rican men. I’m good. I do Black guys all day. I did the Spanish thing. It doesn’t work out for me. I’m good. Black guys cater to us Spanish girls, especially. Like, they … you know what. Let me not even get into that,” Santana said.
When Yee warned her that Black women wouldn’t take too kindly to her comments, she said, “I didn’t mean it like that. But, you know, the Black girls gon’ take it personal. But, no. I’m done with the papis.”
For whatever reason, the backlash from the comment didn’t come until much later. But when it did, the reckoning was swift.
To her credit, when the quote resurfaced, Cyn came forward and apologized for her comments.
In her defense, I don’t think she was speaking ill of Black women. She was attempting to make a statement about the treatment she receives from Black men and why she prefers them. Honestly, her comments are a reflection of the pathology in which some Black men find themselves involved. It would be foolish for us to refuse to acknowledge that there are Black men who place value in women being biracial, Black adjacent or exotic in some way. And those preferences may lead Latinx women to believe that they’re being treated better than other women.
And while she didn’t say this explicitly, the implication that Black men are treating Latinx women better means that there are women they don’t cater to. And for Black men, you would assume that’s Black women.
Black men were silent on the topic but Black women had a lot to say—when the quote came out and particularly now that there are whisperings and rumblings that the two might not be together anymore. Even before all of this, it was clear that Joe wasn’t entirely catering to Cyn.
Should Black women let Cyn have this moment to collect herself, in light of Joe’s foolishness or are they right to remind her that she should be more careful with her words.