It’s about that time of year when people start booking their summer travel. I know it’s easy for life to get the best of you, for time to fly by, and for you to realize, “Oh no—Labor Day is around the corner and we never got away.” You see everybody else going on their summer vacations. You see those Instagram posts on boats, of flowey linen outfits, and of colorful fruity cocktails. Something inside you is tugging at you saying let’s gooooo. But, you tell yourself you’d rather save the money (which is silly, because you can travel on the cheap). You tell yourself you’d rather stay back and get ahead in work while everyone else is falling behind on work because they’re traveling. Well, you’re wrong. What are you going to do with all that money when you’re old and bedridden? You’re going to resent it because you should have traveled when you had the energy. But there’s even an added layer here: getting away with your significant other is so important for your relationship. Here are reasons you should book a summer vacation today to strengthen your relationship.
Just booking it gets you excited
You’ll immediately find that just the act of booking the trip will get you and your partner giddy and feeling closer. You’ll start daydreaming about the things you’ll do on the trip and researching the sites and attractions. It’s nice to talk about this trip instead of all the other humdrum stuff you usually discuss like utility bills.
You have a shared financial goal
You also now have a shared financial goal. You both want to put aside a little extra money so you can really let loose on your trip. You start keeping each other updated on how much you’ve set aside for your vacation fund.
No fighting about time
When you’re on vacation, you don’t fight about the one thing you fight most about at home: time. You don’t argue about running late for your meeting because he was in the shower when you realized his car was parking you in. There’s no meeting. Hey, there’s probably no car. The clock doesn’t matter.
No dirty dish disputes
You also won’t argue about the little domestic things that usually get you going, like emptying the dishwasher or doing the laundry. Your interactions can be cleared of these annoying little disputes.
No unwinding from the day
At home, it’s not just your work that interferes with your time together—it’s also unwinding from your work. You get home, but you aren’t really ready to connect. You need to vent about the day. You need to meditate. On vacation, you don’t need to unwind from anything. You’re already unwound, the whole time, so you get to connect the whole time.
Full attention on each other
You get to give your partner your full, undivided attention and he gets to give you the same. You almost never get to do that at home.
“Who will we hang out with?” isn’t a thing
While, at home, you may argue over whose friends you’ll spend your free time with, but that won’t come up on vacation. It’s just the two of you. This free time is just for you two. Your friends aren’t here.
You bond over new shared experiences
You actually get closer over sharing new experiences, together. So whether that’s trying new food or going zip lining, you’ll feel more connected for taking in those experiences with one another.
Leave your responsibilities; have more sex
You know what happens when you aren’t thinking about paying bills and fixing plumbing issues? You get back to your pure, natural self and she is…horny. All of that stuff back at home interferes with your sex drive and your ability to relax and enjoy sex. On vacation, you’ll probably do it like rabbits.
And there’s nothing like hotel sex
Oh, and there’s just nothing like hotel sex. The room is so fresh and clean. The bed is so big and comfy. There aren’t any items like bills or laptops hanging around, reminding you of real life and stressing you out. You feel so uninhibited.
Let your minds wander
Totally relaxing does something wonderful for the mind: it gets creative juices flowing and helps you tap into parts of your brain you don’t usually have time to access when spreadsheets and customer service calls are in the way. You and your partner will likely have deeper conversations, because you finally access those more contemplative parts of your minds.
Shed your facades
On vacation, you aren’t a manager. You aren’t an assistant. You aren’t a CEO or an executive. You’re stripped of those facades. You’re just the person your partner fell in love with, and he is that to you. You get back to basics and remember why you really love each other.
Act like kids
You don’t have a care in the world on vacation, so your child-like sides can come out. You may sneak into the hotel dining room to use the ice cream machine after hours or play a game of chicken in the pool. It feels good to be kids together.
Life can’t reach you there
You give yourself no excuse to dive back into real life. Life cannot reach you on vacation—you are a multi-hour drive or flight away. Somebody else will have to deal with the crisis back at work. And, since you know that, you just focus on your partner.
Show that the relationship is a priority
Simply making time for the trip shows your partner that this relationship is a priority. In our every day life, we are usually struggling to make our partner feel prioritized. A vacation is a good way to show that in a big way.