If you’re invited, you get gentle instructions
If you are invited to events where there will be elderly individuals, kids, or both, you are given gentle instructions. These may include something like, “It may be better to bring cupcakes rather than a 12-pack of beer to this one.”
You don’t give speeches
You’re not asked to give speeches at weddings and similar events. You’ve actually offered to, and watched the bride squirm to find an answer. “Gosh, you know, it’s so important to my father-in-law to be the master of ceremony. He’s just going to want to hog the mic” may be something you hear.