Marie Kondo is pretty much reigning queen right now when it comes to re-organizing your home. She has a lot of great tips, down to how to fold bras and where to store Tupperware, but the one thing that everyone seems to be taking away is the concept of sparking joy. For those who aren’t familiar with this idea, it’s quite simple: you simply hold an object, and if it doesn’t spark joy, you donate it or get rid of it. More importantly, that feeling of joy sparked should be quite clear. Your whole body should sort of vibrate and light up. It’s instinctual, and not something you should have to justify or talk yourself into. Knowing that, we could probably identify people who do—or don’t—spark joy, right? And we should only have people in our lives who do that, don’t you think? Here are signs a friend no longer sparks joy.
You’ll cancel for dumb reasons
You’ll cancel on this friend for the silliest of reasons. If you’re a tiny bit tired, if your day is busy, or you have a small headache, you’ll cancel on this friend. Meanwhile, you have friends you’d move mountains to see—no matter how tired or busy you are.