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Someone rather close to me consistently dates men whom she doesn’t respect. When she talks to me about them, it’s only to complain. All she has is negative things to say about them. When she talks to them, she criticizes them. If you were a fly on the wall when she spoke to her boyfriends you’d find yourself asking, “Do these people even like each other?” The tones used are certainly not loving or respectful. When I gently pointed out to this person how she speaks to her partners, she’d come back with justifications. She’d just repeat to me all the reasons they deserved that tone. And, for the record, her reasoning was often correct. But she was missing the bigger picture. The question isn’t why are you yelling at your partner but rather why do you constantly date men who make you want to yell? If that sounds like you, here are possible reasons you keep dating men you don’t respect.
You haven’t forgiven yourself
Perhaps you messed up really badly one time. Did you cheat on someone, and pretty much destroy him? Did you leave someone at the altar? If you once did something very bad in a relationship, you may still feel extremely guilty about it.
