A friend of mine just got dumped after being with his girlfriend for over six years. I asked him the other day how he was doing and he said, “Well, I was doing okay until my ex called me, mad at me for not trying to get her back.” Whaaat??? I was very confused. She ended things. My poor friend was just over here trying to survive this heartbreak and do what he can to get back on his feet. He’s trying to cope with the reality that this person is out of his life forever, and he’s trying to put on a strong front while doing it, and then he gets hit with that—excuse my French—bullsh*&? “So…she essentially broke up with you, hoping it would motivate you to make a bunch of changes to win her back?” I asked. “Yup,” he responded. I sort of lost respect for his ex after hearing that. Those are some childish mind games that we’re too old for. Here’s why dumping him so he’ll win you back is a dumb idea.
It’s petty
It’s really very petty. It’s indirect, dishonest, manipulative, calculating, and conniving. Those are all things we should try to be less of as we get older.