Signs He Deserves A Second Chance
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When your man has messed up and you’re so angry that you can barely think straight, your first instinct may be to officially end the relationship. While there are reasons that may make this the right decision, it could also prove to be a hasty one.
Before you give your boo the official boot, perhaps you should consider giving him a second chance…if he’s worthy, that is. To help you make that decision, we’ve compiled a list of ways to know for sure if your man deserves another chance to make things right.
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He’s Giving You Space To Make Your Decision
Many times when you’re going through relationship drama you just need some time and space to figure things out on your own. If your guy is committed to giving you the space you need to decide if you want to give him another shot, then that’s a good step in the right direction.
If he understands that space means he may have to move out for awhile or not communicate with you for a period of time, then he’s showing that he respects what you need to come to a place of possible forgiveness.
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He Understands What He Did Wrong
This is a big one. It’s one thing to hear you tell him what he did wrong, but it’s something else entirely when he actually understands what he did. This is crucial because the first step to effectively apologizing is to understand what you’re apologizing for.
His understanding of his wrongdoing is him accepting that what he did hurt you and he is committed to taking the necessary steps to fix things and save your relationship.
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He’s Genuinely Apologetic For His Actions
Nothing is worse in a relationship than when someone offers any empty apology. This behavior is essentially just telling you what you want to hear with no real intention of correcting anything. It’s basically a pacifying technique to keep you in the relationship while they continue to screw up.
If your guy is genuinely apologetic for his actions, meaning he’s not just saying it, but his actions prove it, then he is definitely showing you that he is serious about another chance with you.
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He’s Not Giving You Empty Promises
There comes a point when after you hear the same promises over and over that they lose all meaning. A man who isn’t giving you a slew of empty promises to get back in your good graces may be worthy of another try.
His promises should be directly followed up with his actions and if the two match up, then you have concrete proof that he is serious about being with you. Actions always speak louder than words, and his are most important during this particular period in your relationship.
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He Wants You To Be Happy Regardless Of Your Decision
It takes a lot of maturity to want happiness for someone you love even if that happiness doesn’t include you, so if your guy has expressed this sentiment to you, you know he truly cares about you.
Selfish men have the mindset that if you are no longer with them then they wish you all bad things in the future. A man who really loves you not only recognizes that what he did caused things to end, but he is content in knowing that someone else can give you the happiness he couldn’t.
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His Good Outweighs His Bad
This should makes things pretty easy as you make your decision to stay with your boo or not. If his list of good qualities is a mile long and his bad is significantly smaller in comparison, then a second chance should be pretty obvious.
We all have things we need to work on in our lives, so give him a little slack and try to focus on all the good things about being in a relationship with him, instead of the things that drive you crazy.
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It’s The First Time He’s Messed Up
We all make mistakes in life and we will continue to, as it’s apart of personal growth, and no one is perfect. If your boo has been pretty much a great partner to you, but this is the first time he’s messed up, a second chance is certainly in order.
Relationships are filled with ups and downs, but you don’t leave an otherwise good relationship just because someone messes up once…or even twice. Take a deep breath and let this one go.
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He Brings Out The Best In You
When being in a relationship with a man allows you to be the best version of yourself, then he’s probably worth keeping. If you are succeeding in various areas and happier than you’ve ever been while in this relationship, whatever he did should be forgiven.
You may be mad now, but if you really stop and think about your relationship with a clear head you’ll see that you are much better with him than you are without him.
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He’s Willing To Do Whatever It Takes
Whether it’s giving you space, going to counseling, pampering you or being in the doghouse for awhile, if he’s willing to do anything to get you back, take note.
This attitude shows that he not only loves you, but he is committed to doing what you need him to do in order to restore the peace and happiness back into your relationship.
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You Can’t Imagine Life Without Him
It’s that simple. If you absolutely cannot imagine your life without him, then you need to give him the second chance he deserves so that you both can live happily ever after.
It’s not often that we feel this way about someone, so if he’s really that important to you, make it work by giving things another try.
