Tamar Calls Iyanla The Devil…Says She Sex-Shamed Her After She Revealed Her Molestation
I was listening to last week’s episode of The Read when they broke some news for me. We’ve reported that the Braxton Sisters were meeting with Iyanla Vanzant for the finale of their show “Braxton Family Values,” a show many of the sisters had been absent from for the past several episodes.
The last we wrote, Toni and Tamar seemed to be having what appeared to be a productive conversation about their annoyances and grievances with one another. (Toni shared that she was disappointed by Tamar’s animations.)
But in a since deleted tweet from Tamar’s page, she flat out explained that the session didn’t go as they thought it would. In fact, Tamar and her sisters walked out of that episode as well. Afterward, Tamar shared her thoughts about the experience.
In response to a man who wrote: “I TOLD yall that b*th was a fraud. I f*cking told y’all.”
Tamar wrote: “U did! Rhonda is the DEVIL!!! Trust me!!! Smh.”
Naturally, when she tweeted this we didn’t know why she might feel this way but apparently, that came out too.
Yesterday, we reported that Tamar told Wendy Williams that she was molested by family members as a child. That sexual abuse was the catalyst for the experience with Iyanla.
“I’ve been battling myself on whether or not I want to say really what happened or not. But I’m Tamar and I’m real. A lot of things happened to me during my childhood that I was too afraid to talk about or too ashamed to talk about. But the truth of the matter is, I’ve been molested by both sides of my family and it’s nothing I ever talked about. And I never thought that I would sit around a table with Iyanla, who’s here to talk about me and my sisters and their problems and basically sex-shame me in front of everybody.”
Today, in an Instagram post she wrote that Vanzant forced her to reveal that sexual trauma in front of a room full of people and then sex-shamed her because of it. See what she wrote in her Instagram post from earlier today.
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Today Wendy asked me what happened at my sisters meeting and why did I walk out. Since someone there decided that they would ask me about something so private, so embarrassing, so secretive in front of EVERYONE that was there, I felt like my life was flashing before my eyes and IMMEDIATELY started to cry. Not because someone decided to allow someone else to tell MY SECRET, not because I was asked if it were True in front of a hundred strangers, but because once again my right to choose was taken from me all over again. I decided to Tell Wendy and the world MY secret, MYSELF that I have been a victim of abuse not once, twice, ten, but multiple times by multiple “family members” I’ve never told ANYONE other than Two people in my life and they both have held this close to them. One Being the man that I am with now and EVERY, SINGLE DAY he says I’m so beautiful and my scars makes me even more attractive. I felt that because this has happened to me recently, that something HAD to be done about people who DID know and tried to make People embarrassed and ashamed about something that has happened to them!!! I never EVER again want anyone to feel so little and so small or even ashamed about something they had no control over. I wanted to create a space where you can tell your OWN story with out anyone commenting or making you feel ashamed EVER again!! Go to and tell your story and empower yourself starting today! I wanted you to know that no matter how many scars you have… you are the PRETTIEST 💕 I love you all so much noneedTBshame.com
All of this makes me really interested to see how this whole thing went down with Iyanla. In the meantime, you can watch the full Wendy Williams show episode here or in the video below.