One doesn’t feel like the parent
It was pretty clear to me that my parents almost had more of a father and daughter relationship than a husband and wife one. Yeah—weird. I know. But my dad felt like he was the only one who carried the burden of knowing about the adult stresses in their lives. And my mom just got to blissfully use credit cards, having no idea what that was costing anyone. If you both look over the finances then you are both equal partners—aka peers—in this thing.