10 Things To Know About Having A Spontaneous Or “Natural” Miscarriage At Home

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You may or may not see the fetus — prepare yourself.

I tried different things to deal with my contractions, and as previously stated, mine were very bad. I had them for days on and off once they started, and they would run through my back and on to my pelvis, feeling as though I was being pulled apart. To find some relief, I would get in the hottest bathwater I could run and try and relax. I took a few of those baths comfortably until I started realizing that other women said they pushed everything out in the tub, even the whole fetus, and had to come face to face with it. I didn’t want that.

While I respect people saving the fetus and burying it, coming face to face with it, for me, would have been traumatizing. I soon stopped taking baths and opted to stay on the toilet when contractions happened and contents of my pregnancy were expelled. Thankfully, I never definitively saw it because I just kept flushing. Not to mention, my wait was so long in getting out everything, my doctor believed the fetus had broken apart after a while.