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Is there such thing as waiting too long to have sex with a love interest? I understand that, sometimes, you don’t even realize you’re into someone that way for months (or years!) so, naturally, a lot of time passes between the day you meet them and the day things become physical. But what about from that moment you realize you want someone? Is there such thing as letting too much time pass? Can you miss your window? I’ve had a few friends try the whole, “Let’s wait three months” thing and, they’ve had mixed results. As humans, we evolved to want to basically jump the bones of people to whom we’re sexually attracted. Is there value in resisting that urge? In fighting biology? Is there a reason our bodies have a hard time resisting someone when we’re into them, and perhaps good reason? Let’s discuss: can waiting too long to have sex ruin things?
One person has to make the call
When you wait a long time, it leaves both people feeling like, “Well, one of us has to call it.” In other words, it creates a dynamic by which one person feels like they “lose” or are “weak” if they’re the first one to say, “Can we stop waiting?”
