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As someone who has been with my boyfriend for five years…and live with him…and have a dog with him…I naturally get the question, “When are you two going to get married?” a lot. My friends ask it with smiles on their faces and excitement in their eyes. They aren’t being judgmental (or trying to be). I know they just think it’s a fun topic but, for some reason, I’ve always been a bit…thrown by the question. I feel like a deer in the headlights. I don’t have an answer to their question, and I’m fine with not having an answer, but I can tell that they read into the fact that I don’t have an answer, so I just feel trapped. They created this situation by asking the question, and now all eyes are on me. I didn’t ask for this conversation and yet, suddenly, I’m in charge of it. I finally decided to break down and analyze why the question bothers me so much, and here it is. Dear friends; please stop asking when I’ll get married. Here’s why.
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We’re enjoying ourselves
We are enjoying this phase. We really are! We’re just soaking up this lovely time when we are in a really stable, established relationship. We’re so comfortable with each other, we’re best friends, and we’re having the time of our lives. We don’t feel like anything is missing. Can’t you see that?
