How To Move Forward After Taking Back A Cheater
Do you think a relationship can survive cheating? I, personally, don’t know where I stand on the matter. The mere thought of my partner cheating on me makes my stomach turn. But, I have had a couple of friends get cheated on, take back their partners, and live…happily(?)…ever after? Well, as far as appearances go, it looks like they’ve managed to recover. I can’t say for certain that things feel the way they did before the cheating, because I’m not in those relationships. But my friends assert that, after doing a lot of work on the relationship—as well as personal work—they were willing to pick up the pieces and continue on in a relationship with a cheater. I’ll repeat that though: it takes a lot of work. And it certainly isn’t easy or cut and dry. Here is how to move forward after taking back a cheater.
Understand why it happened
There is no excuse for cheating—cheating is a disgusting, awful behavior. But, cheating is something one does in response to…something. Some people drink too much or do drugs when they’re unhappy in a relationship. Your partner, apparently, cheats in response to discontent. You’ll do yourself a disservice if you don’t find out what your relationship problems were that triggered this response.