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While you may not know people who will openly reveal that they’re going through/enjoying a “hoe phase,” conversations surrounding this period of sexual experimentation are happening more and more. That includes on TV (see Season 2 of Insecure) and in everyday life. Some have been successful in their attempts to connect with whomever they like, when they like, while others, like comedienne Torrei Hart, admit they haven’t had the same luck.
Earlier this week, the 40-year-old mother of two took the stand-up stage in L.A. and joked that getting back on the dating scene and trying to see if she could get away with a hoe phase has come with some hiccups. Excuse her language, but it’s comedy:
“The dating scene is so different. You know what I’m saying? Because getting married at 23, I ain’t go to college. I didn’t get a chance to be a hoe and all that sh-t,” she said. “So, you know, trying to date at 40 and do hoe sh-t, it just don’t work. You can’t do the same hoe sh-t. These b—hes out here, they hoeing to another level. I’m trying to hoe with this old p-ssy and they’re like, ‘We don’t want that sh-t.’ I’m like, ‘You don’t want this old pu–sy?! It still works [laughs]. It do! It do still work. I still drop it like it’s hot! You see this! And squat. I did a double dip. You saw that sh-t.”
But Torrei isn’t giving up. Though, she admits that her hoe phase won’t be as colorful as that of others because she doesn’t have time for all of that.
“You young n-ggas better recognize, 40 is the new 20,” she said. “For two seconds anyway, ok? Because I ain’t going to be doing too much.”
As Torrei mentioned, she spent most of her young adult years married. She and Kevin Hart married in 2003, and he filed for divorce in 2010 (which was finalized in 2011).
When it comes to dating right now, she may be looking for a good time, but whenever she does desire a serious commitment, we know she’ll have her sights set on an honest, upfront man. Torrei recently said that she could be okay with a man cheating, because she believes every man cheats, if he just kept it real.
“I just think people should be more upfront. Men need to start just being men and say, ‘Look, this is what I’m going to do. Either you’re going to deal with it or you’re not,'” she said. “And I think most women will probably deal with it. But you men just gotta be more upfront.”
