My relationship with my father has been quite a doozy. Reader’s digest version: I caught him cheating on my mom when I was a teenager and today he lives with his once-mistress who openly wishes I didn’t exist. So, there you have that. (Oh and she also spends SO much of his money on designer clothes, expensive dinners, and copious amounts of alcohol, so there goes my inheritance, but I digress). For several years, I didn’t speak to my dad, and then he had a major medical incident that reminded me that oh yeah I don’t have forever to resolve things with him. Now, I recognize that not everyone’s relationship with their father is as complicated as mine. But, even women with relatively simple relationships with their dads probably have noticed that men of an older generation aren’t exactly into talking about feelings and being vulnerable. So, that relationship for most people is a project. In light of Father’s Day being around the corner, here are ways to improve your relationship with your father.
Your dad has a love language
People don’t only use the love languages (words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, giving gifts, and quality time) in romantic relationships. Your dad uses one or two of those on you.