Some people want a partner who doesn’t have a romantic history—they want a clean slate. Untarnished territory. Somebody without baggage. Not me. No way. I think about all of the lessons I have learned from past relationships that made me the good partner that I am today. I think of the pain I put past partners through because, unfortunately, I had to make those mistakes and learn those lessons on their watch. When I think of all of that, I realize how fortunate I am that I am not my partner’s first girlfriend. He must have made mistakes and learned lessons too, and I’m happy that I didn’t have to be the guinea pig. He made those mistakes on someone else’s time (sorry to those ladies, by the way!) so I just get an experienced, emotionally mature individual who is ready to be a solid partner. Here is why you really don’t want to be someone’s first serious girlfriend.
He has no filter
Only people who have been in a few relationships know that you should do some editing when telling a partner about your life. Sure, you should be able to tell your partner anything but, you should also have the wisdom to recognize which information could just be left unsaid (like that story about that threesome you had in college—your partner doesn’t need to know that).