When you fuse your life with your partner’s, his schedule begins to affect you. You can’t retreat to your own apartment when, for example, your sleep schedules completely contract with one another’s and you don’t want to be awaken by his alarm clock, nor do you want to stay quiet in the living room when he passes out. You can’t escape to your home when he hosts boy’s night and you just don’t have the patience to see 40 empty beer cans everywhere or to listen to sports talk for three hours. His schedule, his appointments, his social life, his calendar—these things affect you. And all of those things of yours affect him. Then there’s the fact that you want to do things together! So you can, you know, keep this relationship alive. Scheduling may be the biggest obstacle couples deal with. Here are scheduling challenges every couple faces.
Claiming each other’s relaxation days
You knew your partner was free on Saturday, so you RSVP’d yes to a brunch you two were invited to. You didn’t realize that your partner needed that one day to relax, because it was his only unscheduled day for two weeks. Whoops!