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Some people believe everybody has a kinky side—that waiting beneath the surface of every well-behaved and seemingly demure individual is someone just waiting to be tied up and ball gagged. Honestly, sometimes I think people who say that just do so to justify their own love of BDSM, but there is nothing to justify. Hey, do you! It’s alright if you love to be kinky. But the truth is that not everybody does. Everyone should explore their wild side at some point just to make sure they aren’t limiting themselves in their experiences. But for the record, some people are just…vanilla. Like me. I walked on the wild side and just wasn’t that into it. It’s not my thing. I wasn’t afraid of it or uncomfortable with it; it just didn’t add much to the experience of sex for me. Some people have a hard time accepting that about me. I’m not into kinky stuff, here’s what that’s like.

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People assume I’m uptight

People assume I’m uptight and difficult about all things—that I must also have strict dieting rules, don’t like to dance, am easily embarrassed and so on. None of that is true. I kind of don’t have an insecure bone in my body. I’m very open to new experiences and don’t care if people laugh at my expense. That has nothing to do with whether or not I enjoy anal beads.

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