The word “vulnerable” isn’t typically used in the most positive scenarios. Turn on the news and you may hear the anchors talking about how a new tax reform has made us vulnerable to higher unemployment rates, or how a change in military protocol has made us more vulnerable to attacks. Your doctor probably uses the word a lot, too. This or that activity can make you more vulnerable to colds, flus, skin cancer, infections, and other nasty conditions. So when we use the word vulnerable in love and relationships, naturally, the hairs on the backs of our necks stand up. We’ve been conditioned to believe the being vulnerable is always a bad thing, but when it comes to having meaningful, satisfying relationships, being vulnerable is your most powerful tool. Just watch and see what happens when you put your guard down. Here’s what happens when you decide to be vulnerable.
You analyze interactions less
Because you say what you need to say in your interactions, you don’t walk away analyzing them—wondering if the other person understood what you wanted or what you meant. You said what you wanted and what you meant. So your head is free and clear of regret when you leave.