Emotional affairs: myths or truly harmful events? The question might seem ridiculous to some, but many people don’t really believe in the concept of an emotional affair. Some folks only believe the word “affair” can be attached to something physical, whether that’s sex, kissing, or something else. On some level, there must be plenty of people who don’t believe in emotional affairs, which is exactly how they find themselves in one. When you don’t think you need to be on the lookout for something, you’re bound to run right into it. Your bond with your partner relies on a certain set of boundaries with other people. There’s no denying that getting emotionally close in certain ways with certain people violates those boundaries. Here is how emotional affairs damage relationships.