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Does every break up have to be forever? If Nene and Gregg could do reunite, we don’t see why these celebrity couples can’t give it another try. Know any other celebrity couples who should give it a second shot? Share it with us in the comments section.
We regret to report that according to TMZ, a host of other Atlanta based sites and official court documents, Big Boi’s wife, Sherlita Patton is filing for divorce.
After 11 years of marriage and 20 years of being together, Patton filed documents yesterday claiming that she and Big Boi’s 11 year marriage is “irretrievably broken.”
Big Boi and Sherlita were married in 2002 and have two children together. An 18 year old and a 12 year old. Sherlita is seeking sole custody of the younger child.
In addition to child support, Patton wants spousal support, splitting of the marital assets and attorney’s fees.
It’s always sad to report the potential end of a marriage; but I feel more attached to this one because Big Boi always seemed so committed to his wife. When Big Boi and his wife were robbed back in 2010, Big Boi made comments of how he felt like less of man because he couldn’t protect her in that instance, he’s been interviewed saying their union, though not perfect, is solid. But perhaps we shouldn’t be all that surprised. Big Boi alluded that there was trouble in paradise with his song featuring Kid Cudi, “She Hates Me.”
I mean it started with the rose petal, ended with the stem
By the car, while I was thinking “Damn here we go again”
We used to hold hands and had such a deep convo
Make a few plans like you wanna go where I’mma go?
Well let’s leave pronto and thats what we did
Then we yelled out geronimo and jumped off that bridge
Had a couple kids, you can move where I live
I know old A$$ niggas that’s scared to do what I did
The shoe still fits but I’m wearing out the sole
Sometimes I really feel as if I’m burning out my soul
Forgive me if I raise my voice I won’t raise a hand
But one thing I will do baby is raise my little man.
Sad indeed. Nothing’s quite final yet, so I’m still going to hold out hope that these two can work it out. We’ll see what happens.
The clip may be short, but what we saw of the new season of The Real Housewives of Atlanta is enough to let us know that we’re in for another roller coaster.
In a mere 30 seconds, we see Kandi and Todd discussing his relationship with her mother, Phaedra giving birth to her second son, Peter and Cynthia discussing their marriage woes (again) and Nene and Kenya getting into an argument because Kenya likely doesn’t know her place – whatever that means to Nene. Of course, Nene is saying that people must not know who the eff she is. Thanks, Nene.
But what will likely be the focal point of the season is the dissolution of the marriage been Porsha and Kordell Stewart. In the clip, Porsha is seen saying, “Kordell didn’t necessarily want me physically and that made me wonder, ‘What does he want?’” That has been the question for many years.
A “supertrailer” is likely on the way as is the case with most reality shows these days, but for now, watch this one. The season premiere of The Real Housewives of Atlanta kicks off on Bravo on November 3rd.
Will you be watching?
The beautiful, talented and super transparent Jill Scott recently sat down with Rolling Out. During her chat, the Baggage Claim actress opened up about what getting a divorce has taught her about love, raising her son, Jett, and why finding true love takes dedication. Check out her interview highlights below.
On lessons that she intends to teach her son, Jett:
“There are some things I have to instill in him as we move along. I need him to be a thinker. I don’t believe we have to make ourselves fit into someone’s comfortable space. This is a real world and we are real people. Compassion for other people counts. You have to think about your surroundings — with the world, not just America. Be mindful of where you are, and I hate to say it, but be on guard. That burns me up that I have to think about my own protection. It’s a part of where we are, where we have always been. It’s just open now. I prefer [racism] to be open and in my face. At least I know what I’m dealing with. We all know what we’re dealing with.”
On reality TV’s negative portrayal of Blacks:
“If I’m in another country and all I see [are] McDonald’s commercials, why wouldn’t I think that’s what America is? When the representation of an entire people is based on fictitious reality shows, it builds a certain box of who and what we are. To be perfectly frank, we’ve got the wives of doctors fighting in ball gowns. The television and the Internet are creating boxes for us and I believe we are starting to fall for it. Why wouldn’t everybody else? [There] has to be a balance. We’re not so simple. I think that’s a big part of the problem. You can’t expect someone to think differently if they are only shown a specific image. Unfortunately, it’s a tarnished image.”
On why finding true love is hard:
“Love is hard. Finding someone to fall in love with is the hardest part of all. Infatuation is easy. We get caught up in someone’s looks, or their money, but not the person. Or, we’re into someone for a couple of months and then the novelty fades and we’re on to the next. Love is bigger than just the emotion for the moment. Love requires patience. It requires communication. It requires and demands mutual respect and understanding. In this quick-paced world, we want immediate gratification. Our idea of love and having that is great, but the immediate gratification of having it all is what most people are after in this microwavable world. That’s what makes it such a challenge. We have to change our mentality if we want relationships that will last. Finding someone or meeting someone who is equally yoked — that’s major. Not just financially, but someone who is willing to participate with you in life and love. All of those things are what I was told to look for.”
“It’s not about falling for just anybody. You want to love the whole person. I think we’re all on a hunt. I think everybody wants to be loved and appreciated and wanted. But, you can’t just choose whoever fits the bill. There has to be a connection in a very real way. You have to be there through the good and bad times. I think this movie opens the door for us to explore those thoughts. It’s funny, it’s cute, and it’s very romantic.”
On what divorce taught her about marriage:
“When it was time to go, it was time to go. I now know if I were to ever get married again, it’s all the way or we’re not going. We’re not making that next move at all. That’s the issue with me. That means I have to find someone willing to make that same exact commitment. If not, life is good. Fruit is sweet, traveling is awesome, and family is healthy. I’ll live, but I would prefer to sit and love someone equally. I’m understanding love even more because I have a child. I know regardless of what he does; spill juice all over the floor or draw on the wall, that I still love him anyway. I still want his company. I still have a deep desire to hold his hand. That’s the next level of love regardless of what’s going on. We still care for one another. We’ve lost a lot of that.”
Although she’s going through one of the ugliest divorces in reality TV history, Real Housewives of Atlanta star Porsha Stewart appears to still believe in love. The 30-something-year-old entrepreneur recently opened up to Sister 2 Sister about the qualities that she personally believes Mr. Right should possess and how to know if a man is the one.
“I think a woman should look for a man who they feel they can trust and who has their best interest at heart,” the outspoken reality star expressed.
She went on to say that the key to a successful marriage is being equally yoked with your partner.
“The way that you’ll know if a man is equally yoked to you is if your purpose in life is aligned with his.”
The aspiring singer added that many marriages fail because individuals fail to to learn their God-ordained purposes prior to getting married.
“A lot of people get married and don’t know what their purpose is. Because a lot of people don’t know how to be still, stop their thoughts, stop their wants, and try to listen to hear what God wants them to do, and once He tells you what He wants for your life, you have to trust that and move on it.”
Well, they say experience is the best teacher.
What do you think of Porsha’s advice?
The heartbreaking realities of divorce include the high split rate for people with mental illnesses. A multinational study of mental disorders, marriage and divorce published in 2011 found that a sample of 18 mental disorders all increased the likelihood of divorce — ranging from a 20-percent increase to an 80-percent increase in the divorce rate. Addictions and major depression were the highest factors, with PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) also significant.
Elsewhere, researchers have shown a strong link between personality disorders and elevated divorce rates, with antisocial personality disorder and histrionic personality disorder having the highest rates. The authors accepted that there was insufficient research on narcissistic personality disorder to quantify its effect on divorce, although anecdotal evidence strongly suggests a link. With the reported increase in narcissistic traits in the U.S., we are likely to see this as an increasing category.
From my observation, I would estimate that 80 percent of the people who attend my divorce recovery classes suffer from a mental illness or disorder, or have dealt with a partner with one or more mental health conditions. The challenges of being married to a person with a mental illness or disorder are often made considerably worse during the divorce process, and an individual with a mental health challenge will see their symptoms worsen during divorce.
Many people with mental health concerns have additional barriers to achieving intimacy and have trouble consistently engaging in behaviors that support a marriage. The top two mental health conditions that contribute to divorce have been reported to be major depression and addictions. In addition, bipolar disorder seems to be related to divorce by virtue of how long and how severe the depressive episodes are and the amount of life stress associated with a manic episode (for example: debt incurred or partner betrayed by cheating). The wonderful book An Unquiet Mind, written by Kay Redfield Jamison in 1995, vividly describes the author’s experience of living with bipolar disorder.
Anxiety is another mental health condition that can severely affect a relationship. Someone with chronic anxiety tends to seek a high amount of emotional support from a spouse, and I have seen an increase in impatience from the non-anxious spouse. Some anxious clients also seem to experience an increase in their personal stress levels just by being in a relationship, and some decide to end the relationship themselves to relieve that tension.
Depression seems to affect the divorce rate by virtue of lack of engagement in the relationship as well as not being able to fulfill family or work expectations. Men sometimes show depression through anger, and many female clients have told me how difficult it is to live with constant irritability, hostility, and angry outbursts. The spouse of a depressed person may take on additional responsibilities in the family and finances, which leads to resentment and burnout. I have had a number of clients who, because of a depressed spouse, have had to take on family responsibilities in addition to already-demanding jobs—while feeling powerless to make changes.
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No one ever goes into a marriage hoping or knowing that the relationship will one day end with a divorce. Going through a separation with someone you once knew and were in love with is an extremely hard task, and the process becomes even harder if children are caught up on the mix. If you are going through a divorce or considering one, you’ll want all the help and advice you can get. Here are 14 things that no one tells you about divorce.
Jumping the broom doesn’t guarantee that the two of you will live happily ever after. These stars have learned that sometimes, when a marriage ends, it takes your money, dignity and reputation with it. Check out our list of 15 of the messiest Hollywood divorces in history.
Tiger Woods and Elin Nordegren
Tiger was the picture-perfect golf wonderboy until he got caught cheating with every white woman within arms’ reach. Elin busted up his car, the scandal busted up his golf game and Tiger had to hand over $100 million in their 2009 divorce.
White House Down actress and mommy of three, Garcelle Beauvias, is currently gearing up for the launch of her new I Am book series, which is geared towards children and speaks on subjects like adoption, divorce and being bi-racial. The first release from the series titled, I Am Mixed, encourages children to embrace diversity.
“I Am Mixed is an invaluable teaching tool that all children from all races can learn from,” said fellow Hollywood actress, Halle Berry, who wrote the book’s foreword.
According to Beauvais, the book was inspired by her two younger sons.
“It was an opportunity to help my children understand what makes them special, to know their heritage and learn self-acceptance. I really hope it will start conversations for other families as well,” the 46-year-old Haitian beauty told parenting site Elizabeth Street.
“I want my children to have compassion for all human beings regardless of race, age, or any other differences. Having respect is a big part of what I want to instill in them. And most importantly, I want them to be proud of what makes them who they are!,” she continued.
She went on to say that when she moved from Haiti to Massachusetts, she was the only Black child in school and it was the first time she she was “different.”
“When I came here, we moved to Massachusetts and I didn’t speak English. When I went to school, I was the only black child, and the kids would touch my skin and feel my hair because they hadn’t seen someone like me. I never thought of myself as different until then. I learned to be more accepting of others because of my experience.”
A brief description of I Am Mixed found on Amazon.com reads:
“Jay and Nia are the children of two worlds, and as they will discover, they can enjoy the best of both. From Mommy’s jazz beats to Daddy’s classical piano, we will dance with the twins through a book that explores what it is to be of mixed ancestry, proving that a child is more than the sum of their parents.”