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From Essence

Dear Dr. Sherry,

I am a 49-year-old woman who has been married for 28 years. I have devoted my life to my husband and my daughter. The moon rose and set on the two of them, and I had great faith in my husband and believed everything he told me as gospel until about five years ago. My husband had a 2-year relationship that almost tore our marriage apart. I asked him to leave and he move out. After three months, he said he had made a mistake and we reconciled. Fast forward to after the affair. I began to analyze myself. I had really neglected myself, to the point, I had gained weight, neglected to finish school and stop going out with my friends because as I was just too busy with my family. I gave up all my power as a woman to my husband. It was not his fault.

In 2011, I decided I needed a change. I had gastric bypass surgery and I’ve lost almost 70 pounds so far. I enrolled in college at my job and I’m almost finished and looking forward to my new career. I have also made new friends and go out at least once a week. I am having the time of my life! However, there are problems: My husband has been extremely resistant to my changes, I know he does not like it, and at this point his opinion no longer matters. Dr. Sherry, for the past three years my husband has been in the hospital because he refuses to take care of himself. He has a host of illnesses; diabetes, HTN, eye-problems, hearing problems etc., which all came about after the affair. Just recently, he lost his job, and then, for no apparent reason, stopped taking all of his meds. Last Thanksgiving he had a mild stroke, and my husband is only 52 years old. Also because of my husband’s last stint in the hospital and job loss, we are now behind in the mortgage payments and in foreclosure.

My husband is recovering from the stroke and has found a full-time job. We are now negotiating with the mortgage company. I’m tired and at the end of my rope. I’m tired of always having to run behind him and to put out the fires. My daughter is going off to college, and I no longer want to be married. I refuse to leave because he needs me, since he is still recovering from the stroke. Please help. What do I do? I love my husband, but I don’t think I’m in love with him anymore.

Signed,

Don’t Know What to Do

See what Dr. Sherry Blake has to say about this on Essence.com.

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It’s been a hot minute since we’ve seen D’Wayne Wiggins of the hit ’90s group Tony! Toni! Toné! and his wife is trying to make sure she’s dealt that same fate. According to TMZ, after 12 years of marriage she’s filing for divorce.

Michelle Lochin-Wiggins is reportedly citing irreconcilable differences as the reason for the divorce filing from her 50-year-old husband. She’s also seeking full legal and physical custody of the couple’s teenage boys who are 14 and 17. TMZ reports that she does at least plan to grant D’wayne visitation rights to the children.

So far there’s been no mention of pre-nups or speculation about how assets may be split between the couple, but D’wayne’s likely doing alright in the money department. Aside from the earnings of Tony! Toni! Toné!’s first go ’round, since 1998 D’Wayne’s continued to tour, performing the groups hits with the current lead singer Amar Khalil. And just before the group disbanded in 1996, he established Grass Roots Entertainment  in his West Oakland recording studio, House of Music. In 1995, he developed and signed Destiny’s Child to the entertainment company, and we all know how they turned out. He’s also worked with Keyshia Cole and Alicia Keys, notably on her Billboard hit “Diary.”

Something tells me Michelle is going to want a bit of those earnings. Here’s hoping they can have an amicable split.

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Since news that retired NFL player Kordell Stewart filed for divorce from his wife, Real Housewives of Atlanta star Porsha Stewart, it seems that every day the estranged pair is making headlines for divorce-related drama. Although the reality TV couple is headed for divorce, it looks like they’re still living under the same roof and according to TMZ, things are getting pretty ugly.

Court documents filed on behalf of Porsha claim that Kordell has been locking her out of the house at night. She also claims that he’s been bringing another woman into their home.

Kordell has also filed papers in response, claiming that he locks up their home at night for security reasons and that she’s ridiculously called the police to their home on multiple occasions, claiming that she’s locked out even though she has a key. He also said that Porsha stays away from their home for several days at a time, partying all night and sometimes comes in between 2:00 and 4:00 am, smelling of alcohol.

As for the other woman that Porsha says her estranged husband has been bringing home, Kordell claims the woman is a nanny whom he was forced to hire because Porsha has been ”neglecting her responsibilities to her stepson.” It is also being reported that Kordell is urging the court to deny Porsha’s request for temporary spousal support, claiming that she’s a celebrity with enough income to take care of herself.

One can only imagine how hostile the environment must be in that household right now.

Does Porsha have an obligation to her stepson?

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For weeks rumors have been circulating the Real Housewives of Atlanta freshman, Porsha Stewart would not be returning for the show’s next season. But with her impending divorce being the talk of the town, sources now say that Porsha is “officially” a part of next season’s cast, reports The YBF.

The way the story is being told, prior to Kodell filing for divorce, Porsha had already informed Bravo that she didn’t wish to return next season. RHOA development sources suggest that Porsha’s attempted departure came as a result of Kordell turning up the heat on her to leave the show. It seems that he wasn’t crazy about the way that he was portrayed on the show and Porsha, being a devoted wife, was willing to sacrifice her newfound fame to make her retired NFL husband happy.

There’s word that Bravo had already began to plan out casting calls for Porsha’s replacement, but now that Porsha says she wants in for next season, they’ve done away with those plans.

The Georgia peach made her first official public appearance since news of the divorce leaked, earlier this week at the Bravo’s Upfronts event in New York City and she looked amazing (pictured above). US Weekly briefly chatted with the lovely soon-to-be single lady. She expressed that going through a divorce was difficult, but that she has the support of her inner circle and that’s what has been helping her though.

“This is a very difficult time for myself and my family. I’m just trying to remain strong. That’s all I can do and stay prayerful and lean on my friends and family. When you have strong arms and strong family around you, they cover you – that’s what they’re there for. So that’s who I’m leaning on. And it’s really a blessing to see people, supporters and fans are standing up and just really showing me the love,” Porsha revealed.

While the public will never fully know all that went wrong in Porsha and Kordell’s marriage (nor should they), from the outside looking in, it really seems like he tried to block her shine in many ways and as Porsha’s co-star Kandi stated last week, maybe this is all for the best.

Would you be happy to see Porsha return to RHOA next season?

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If you thought your man was asking you to do some kinky stuff in the bedroom, think again. According to the African Seer Zimbabwean couple are getting a divorce because, according to the wife, her husband insisted and possibly even forced her to have sex with a snake. And when I say snake I’m not referring to her husband. I mean snake as in the reptile.

The wife, Venenciah Chatima, brought up the snake sex in court after her husband, Mutsvodi Makwini, sought a protection order against her. She had this to say:

“The reason why he is divorcing me is not that I am abusing him as he claims in this court. The real issue here is that I refused to sleep with a snake. What happened was that he came home with a brand new television set and he told me that if I wanted him to bring more things at home I was supposed to have sex with a snake.

“Even though I refused to sleep with the snake, I have noticed that every morning I will be feeling as if I had slept with someone. As you can see I no longer have my front teeth. I lost them the day he assaulted me because I had entered our bedroom and caught my husband sleeping with his 25-year-old girlfriend on our matrimonial bed,” she narrated.

Mutsvodi says that he needs a protection order against his wife because she has been assaulting him and his property.

“I want the court to separate me from this woman because we have failed to live as husband and wife. One of the main reasons why I want her out of my house is because she is in the habit of deliberately urinating on my church uniform and I no longer have a uniform to wear when going to church. She is also a violent person and I also want her to be stopped from pulling my private parts,” he claimed.

The story just gets better and better doesn’t it?! Peeing on his church uniform? That’s pretty low down.

So, by now you’re probably wondering whether or not Mutsvodi had anything to say about the snake sex. He did and his answer is to die for:

“I have never forced her to sleep with a snake. I only talked about it to her in passing and not that I was forcing her,” he said.

I don’t know about you but when I read that line I fell on the floor–howling. Asking your wife to have sex with a snake is not something you just mention in passing my friend. That is a serious, perhaps hours long, conversation.

Anyway the magistrate presiding over the case granted the order of protection Mutsvodi requested though his wife won’t be evicted from his house as he would have liked. Don’t know if her living in the same house will stop the urination or the pulling of the private parts he complained about. We’re just hoping these two don’t end up seriously hurting one another.

What do you make of this outrageous story? What’s the weirdest thing someone ever asked you to do in bed?

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Since the shocking news of Kordell Stewart filing for divorce hit the web, Porsha’s Real Housewives of Atlanta co-stars have been coming out, one by one, offering sympathy and well wishes to their younger cast mate. The latest to come forward is Kandi Burruss, who expressed that she was saddened by the news.

“I was very sad. I reached  out to her. I didn’t talk to her, but we spoke on text. I was really just hurting for her. I hate the whole thing that when people get on reality TV sometimes that can breakdown a relationship. I hate that for her. She really, really, really wanted her  marriage to work,” she said in an interview with Cocoa Fab.

Kandi went on to reveal that viewers will get a chance to witness an emotional  Porsha discuss just how hard she was fighting  to make her marriage work, when the reunion show airs.

“You’ll see that on the reunion. That’s going to come up. She really talks emotionally about how she’s really working to work for her marriage. So that was sad for me to hear. I was shocked that he filed in that way. I noticed little things that he posted on Instagram — because we all follow each other — and I was like ‘what does that mean?!’ It was certain things that he had posted that made me think ‘I don’t know about that! Do we say that when we’re happy?!?’” she continued.

The “Prayed Up” singer seems to be echoing her co-star Kenya Moore in her thinking that all hope is not lost, revealing that she believes Porsha and Kordell may be able to work things out.

“Overall, I hope that they can work this out. I don’t understand what is that bad that they can’t work it out. I’m not in their day-to-day life. But I don’t know.”

She also had some words of encouragement for Porsha.

“First of all, I always want to say I can’t give anyone advice about their marriage. But as far as going through something, it can’t rain forever. The sun IS going to shine again. Sometimes we feel like eveything is just so bad. And stuff keeps happening. But even when you’re going through a rainy season, you’ll still going to get  a day of sunlight. For her, she’s beautiful, she’s young she doesn’t have any children. She was upset to go through those things, but … maybe this has put her in a spotlight to be in a better place and put the shine on her. Whereas she was being the happy help mate to someone else, maybe it’s is her time to shine. God makes things happen. You never know.”

It’s nice to see the other ladies come forward to offer support.

What are your thoughts on Kandi’s reaction?

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Seriously, not cool.

Yesterday we told you that Kordell Stewart filed for divorce. The news came as a shock to many because judging from what we saw on the show, the two still seemed very much into each other. It appears that Real Housewives of Atlanta fans weren’t the only ones surprised by headlines that told of Kordell’s legal filing, Porsha was thrown for a loop as well. A representative for Porsha told US Weekly that the former NFL player deceived his wife into believing that they would be working on their marriage, then turned around and filed for divorce, leaving her to learn of his decision via media outlets.

“Mrs. Stewart is disappointed about her husband’s recent filing for divorce. Mrs. Stewart had held off on filing for a divorce herself and remained committed to the marriage because Mr. Stewart promised to work on the marriage with her. Instead, he misled her and she found out about the filing in the media. Mrs. Stewart hopes to resolve these personal issues privately with the support of her family, friends and strong faith,” the representative revealed.

Foul. After remaining fairly quiet on social media for the majority of the day, Porsha took to her Twitter and Instagram pages to thank everyone for their support.

“Thank you for your Prayers,” is the message she wrote to accompany the following photo.

Meanwhile on the other side of town, TMZ caught up with Porsha’s co-star Kenya Moore as she seemed to be finishing a workout. When asked about Kordell and Porsha, Kenya told TMZ that she believes the pair can work out their differences if they’re willing to put in the work.

“It’s unfortunate. You never really want to see couples breakup. I’m a fool for love and I wish they could make it. It seems like they just need to maybe iron some things out in their relationship. Maybe they can still make it work,” Kenya expressed.

She went on to say that cast members had a clue that there was trouble on the homefront when Kordell pulled a no-show at the reunion show taping and revealed that although they’ve had their differences, she did reach out to Porsha to offer her support.

Turn the page to see footage of Kenya chatting it up with TMZ. What are your thoughts on all of this?

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Earlier today, the shocking news that retired NFL star Kordell Stewart filed for divorce from his wife, Real Housewives of Atlanta star Porsha Stewart broke. While most of the general public did not see this coming, in a rather vague tweet, Porsha’s co-star NeNe Leakes seems to be hinting that she noticed something sketchy about Kordell from early on. She also expressed that she is standing behind her co-star during this difficult time.

While we’re not exactly sure about which aspect of Kordell’s character Leakes is referring to, or if the character comment was even in reference to him at all, we do know that she was very disapproving of the way that Kordell tried to control Porsha.

“I really like Porsha, and even feel like a big sister to her [...] It appears that Kordell is talking to his daughter and not his wife! Porsha can’t seem to do much without getting permission from Kordell [...] I will never talk to Porsha about her relationship again, but if she ever wants to talk to me, I’m here!” Leakes wrote in a blog post earlier this month.”

In other Kordell and Porsha divorce news, a representative of the retired NFL player released a statement to Hip Hollywood regarding his impending divorce. The statement reads:

“This is a personal and private family matter for Kordell and his family. This was a very difficult decision for Kordell. I hope everyone understands. Kordell’s ongoing concern has been and remains his son’s best interest.”

Good thing Porsha has the support of NeNe and her family to help her though this challenging time.

Thoughts?

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*Update* TMZ updated their story on the current RHOA split adding:

According to the divorce docs, obtained by TMZ, Kordell says the marriage is “irretrievably broken” … and claims the two are currently separated.

It seems Kordell also believes he shouldn’t have to pay Porsha a single cent in spousal support … claiming, “[She's] an able-bodied person, earning income and is capable of supporting herself.”

Kordell also says there are no marital assets subject to division … which suggests there is a prenuptial agreement in play

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The reality TV marriage curse is real. Another “Real Housewives of Atlanta” marriage has come to an end, according to TMZ. The site is reporting that cast newcomer Porsha Stewart’s husband has — gasp! — filed for divorce from the self-proclaimed stay-at-home “trophy” wife. According to the site:

Kordell Stewart – the former Pittsburgh Steelers star — has filed for divorce from his reality star wife Porsha Williams … TMZ has learned.

According to Fulton County Superior Court in Georgia, the 40-year-old NFL alum — who went by the nickname “Slash” during his playing days — filed for divorce on March 22.

Stewart and Williams were married on May 21, 2011 — they have no children together. Stewart has a son from a previous relationship.

Williams currently stars on “Real Housewives of Atlanta.”

The issue of children came up often on the reality show — Porsha wanted to have kids AND a career in charity work … but Kordell told her she had to choose.

Despite some of the disagreements the pair had regarding their discussions around starting a family, I don’t think most fans of RHOA saw this coming — although a broken reality TV marriage isn’t exactly novel these days. Still, it’s sad to see a marriage crumble after only two years. Perhaps their union wasn’t solid enough to withstand the pressure of ’round the clock cameras, or maybe Porsha made the wrong choice in Kordell’s eyes and decided she didn’t want to stop her charity work just to become a mother.

Whatever the reason, I hope the pair has at least given it their all before deciding to walk away. They haven’t even made it to the two-year mark!

Are you as shocked by this news as we are?

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Former Basketball Wives star, Jennifer Williams has been through a lot with her estranged husband Eric Williams. While their seemingly never-ending divorce continues to drag on and on, Jen appears to have closed that chapter of her life. Earlier this year we told you that Jennifer had finally gone public with her relationship with music industry exec. Cisco Rosado. Now in the form of a blog post,  she’s opening up about how the public break-up with her soon-to-be ex-husband, Eric impacted her emotionally and one of the mistakes she made when trying to get past it. Her post in its entirety reads:

“Hey Lucid Lovers!

So someone asked me to write about love. Whoa! I thought to myself, this is going to be interesting! LOL! Anyway, I got to thinking about my love life and the journey it has taken me on.  This advice I am going to blog about might be right for you, but it might be wrong for you. All I can do is be honest and hope it helps or at minimum you take something away from it.

When I first started going through my divorce, my initial reaction was I need to date someone.  That rebound guy, someone to distract me from my real feelings.  When I got that, I realized it was a temporary fulfillment. What I really needed was to heal my soul and my heart so I could genuinely be open to honestly and whole-heartedly truly loving again.

Love can be the must amazing feeling in the world and the most hurtful as well. It truly is a funny thing! I feel the key to finding love is to be happy with you first. Make sure you are at a place in your life where you are content and your heart is open to love.  Love requires work and compromise.  I also feel like when you least expect it, love will knock you over.  Focus on yourself; work, family, friends and whatever else makes you happy and when God feels you are ready he will bring you the perfect companion.

Trust is a huge component of making a relationship work. It is vital not to bring your past experiences of a bad relationship into your present relationship.  Everyone deserves a fair chance until they do something to make you give them the side eye.  Ladies, you know what that means without me going into detail.

Talk, talk and more talk!  Communication is key to a thriving, loving, healthy relationship. Nowadays everyone gets caught up in texting. A relationship cannot survive when a “new message” alert is your lifeline. Pick up the phone and listen to each other’s voice. You cannot feel true emotion through a text and things can be taken out of context. Even when you are in a long distance relationship try and find time to Skype or Face time if your mate is not in the country.  I am an advocate for long distance relationships. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and when you see the person you don’t take them for granted.

The important thing about love is to be honest and keep it fresh.  Don’t fall into a routine.  Surprises are always nice and they let your mate know they are appreciated maybe a love letter, a bubble bath or some home-baked cookies.  Just a little something to put a smile on their face!

And ladies remember how you got him is how you keep him! So with the flowers soon blooming, I hope you all SPRING in love..

‘Let us always meet each other with a smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.’ – Mother Teresa

Love and Lucid kisses,

JW”

Thoughts?