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Don’t delude yourself into believing your marriage never happened like these celebrities.
Have you ever noticed how many terms we use that come from golf? Something may be “teed up” or “par for the course.” My favorite is “mulligan,” which is a do-over without penalty. A chance to pretend you didn’t screw up and start over. There are times in all of our lives when we wish for a mulligan but is that ever really possible? Well, consider annulment . . .
In a way, annulment is a mulligan in the game of marriage. With the stroke of a pen, a judge declares that your marriage never really happened, your mistake is reversed, and you’re free to start over. If the celebrity world is any indicator, annulment has become the option of choice in quickly ending a marriage. But here’s the deal with annulment: it’s not easy to get one. In fact, it’s much easier to get a divorce because all you have to allege is “irreconcilable differences” and, bingo, you’ve got grounds for divorce. It’s nobody’s fault, things just didn’t work out.
An annulment, on the other hand, requires that the party seeking the annulment to prove mental illness, fraud, forced consent, physical incapacity to consummate the marriage, or lack of consent to underage marriage or bigamy. In other words, to get an annulment you have to allege and prove that, had you known the true facts and been in your right mind, you never would have gotten married in the first place. It’s a bit ironic, don’t you think, that divorce — which acknowledges the validity of marriage — is easier to get than an annulment, which says the marriage was void to begin with.
The requirement that one must allege and prove wrongdoing to be granted an annulment is why:
Renee Zellweger alleged fraud when she filed for an annulment of her marriage to Kenny Chesney.
Ditto for when Dennis Rodman sought an annulment of his marriage to Carmen Electra. Rodman doubled down and also claimed he was too drunk to know what he was doing.
Britney Spears alleged in her annulment petition that she “lacked understanding of her actions to the extent that she was incapable of agreeing to the marriage” to Jason Alexander “because before entering into the marriage the Plaintiff and Defendant did not know each others likes and dislikes, each others desires to have or not have children, and each others desires as to State of residency.”
Pamela Anderson and Rick Salomen BOTH cited fraud as grounds for their annulment.
Each of those couples could have filed for divorce and alleged irreconcilable differences, but to get an annulment they had to allege fraud, unsound mind, or another legal ground justifying an annulment. Here’s why . . .
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The past couple of months, Master P and his wife’s name has been plastered all over the blogs. Percy and Sonya Miller have been detailing the dissolution of his 25 year marriage to Sonya Miller. And though he’s said some inflammatory things to TMZ and his son Romeo has commented, we really haven’t gotten the full story from Master P. Well, today on the Wendy Williams Show, he sat down and told it all. He apologized to his wife for some things, explained why he missed his custody hearing and even spilled the tea on an upcoming Master P biopic, if you haven’t noticed, they’re all the rage these days. Check out some of the highlights from the interview, transcribed below and the full video at the bottom of the page.
Apologies and claims of drug use
Wendy: You’ve been married to Sonya for 25 years. This is the same girl who was with you when you were scrapping two rocks together trying to build something.
Master P: I think that people got to realize that in a relationship, things happen, people grow together or they grow apart. She definitely was there. We ain’t been in a relationship in seven years. And I’m not mad at her, I love her. She’s my kids’ mother and we have to take care of our kids forever. I think what people need to realize is when lawyers come into play, and you know, you got lawyers who don’t know your business, or don’t know where you come from, they play a big effect.
I want to apologize to her, to be honest with you, because I’m not perfect, nobody’s perfect but I’m at a good stage in my life right now. I don’t have a right to say whatever she needs to do. That was just me kind of like, getting back… if somebody says this about you, knowing I been taking care of somebody for twenty something years, it kind of hurt a little bit. But at the same time, I feel like in my life, it’s about my kids, it’s about our kids. Whether we never be together, we gotta take care of our kids.
W: Sonya claimed she was on welfare and living with Romeo, is that true?
MP: Stop listening to all that stuff. I’m just saying, if she’s living with Romeo, that mean she’s living a beautiful life. Let’s be honest. If our relationship don’t work, she has her son Romeo, who’s successful, she will be alright.
W: You said that if she could pass a drug test, you would give her anything she wants.
MP: Not only her family but my family, we’re trying to break that cycle with drugs and alcohol. I think a lot of people don’t know that it breaks up a lot of families, it destroys a lot of families. But that’s not my right to say that and I realize that. So like I said, I want to apologize to her for that because I don’t have that right, I’m not God, I’m not perfect. And I realize that whatever she gotta do, she has to figure it out. I can’t change nobody but me, she can change herself.
MP: When you have daughters, like my other daughter, I’ve been having problems with the other girl and my other daughter, her older sister, she’s about to be eighteen. I’ve really been trying to spend a lot of time with them because they say in a relationship, girls really play off of their father and so I really want to spend a lot of time with them and that’s what I’ve been doing. But you know what, it’s not about custody, I’m going to take care of my kids.
W: I heard you didn’t go to court because you were at your 15-year-old daughter’s school, talking to the principal and vice principal because her grades are terrible, she’s been missing a lot of school and she’s a little out of control.
MP: She’s out of control. But when you’re a celebrity, I can’t do what my dad did with me. My dad put the belt on me. When I got acting bad…that’s what I really want to do but then I’ll be back on–somebody said “P did this.” Sometimes you do need to be chastised. I’ve been with her, I’ve been going to the school on my own, dealing with principals and saying you know what ‘You’re a smart girl, you’re beautiful, you need to get it together in school because that’s all I’m asking you to nothing else but do your school work.’
Whatever she deserves, she’s going to get it. I have no problem with that. But you know in life you move. Like I said, you either fall in love or you fall out because of communication. I think at the beginning, we never really had the proper communication. I was young, trying to make it. We came a long way. I got a brother dead, I got a brother in prison.
W: How is C Murder by the way?
MP:Well, you know we’re praying for him. He didn’t do this but all the other stuff, where he comes from, it follows you and that’s what I try to teach my kids. You gotta know when you walk out that door, anything can happen. So, you gotta be prepared. And I think education is a big part of it. Education saved my life. I went to college. That was the most important thing for me.
The Reality Show
Wendy explains that she was trying to say that she doesn’t think Master P shouldn’t put his family drama on reality tv.
MP: Well, the difference with me, that I feel like right now, is that my life has been a big secret. People never got a chance to see how the Millers really live. And this is a fun show, as a single father raising his kids. It’s funny. We’re going out traveling, doing things, showing our life saying where we come from. We come from the projects and we want to motivate kids all across the country to say, ‘P did it, we can do it.’
W: It’s going to be uplifting like Tiny and T.I.?
It’s all of us getting our lives together. I’m focusing on my kids right now. People always talk about African American fathers, they aren’t there for their kids. And whatever we go through, I’m always going to be there for my kids.
MP: It’s coming. 2015, Master P: The Ice Cream Man, the movie is coming. On the big screen. We’re looking for somebody to play me right now. You’ll see our life where we started. My grandfather was a big influence in my life, my dad my grandmother. You know I had choices to make in my life, I remember I’m in the projects with Romeo, he’s one-year-old. I’m listening to Ice T’s “Colors” ‘I’m a nightmare walking, psychopath talking’ and my grandmother saying ‘Boy, turn that music down.’ And I’m thinking to myself, if I didn’t change my life, Romeo wouldn’t be the big, superstar actor he is now.
Fresh off of her official announcement that she was leaving “The View” or that “The View” was leaving her, Sherri Shepherd sat down to co-host the Tom Joyner Morning Show. She seemed to be exception jovial even when they asked her about the very personal drama that we’ve been watching play out in the media for weeks now. For those of you who don’t remember, her husband Sal filed for divorce and is now fighting for custody of the surrogate baby the couple were planning to have together. Then, seemingly out of no where her ex husband, Jeff Tarpley requested sole custody of their son Jeffrey, who Sherri’s been raising on her own and then with the help of Sal. And then to top it all off “The View” decided not to renew her contract this coming August. You know what they say, when it rains it pours. But either Sherri’s a great actress or she’s coping pretty well. See how she made light of the situation on the Tom Joyner Morning Show.
Tom Joyner: We just wanted you to have some fun because we realize that you’ve been going through it for the last six months.
Sherri Shepherd: That’s why I got this t-shirt that says Hot mess.
Being served with papers at the Essence Festival
You know they served me papers at the Essence Festival? I had to get on stage. And I said well, have him come serve me privately.
I got served right before I went on stage. I had the summons and complaint in my jokes. I was getting them mixed up. I didn’t know who had served me, which one had served me. One'[ex husband’s] attorney is on “Inside Edition” and one is on “Access Hollywood.” What’s going on? Lord, you got a big blessing for me.”
But Sherri says her sense of humor is what is helping her get through this trying time.
“Then I went onstage and killed. That’s what comics do. You gotta perform. They paid me to make people laugh. Plus I spent the money so if I didn’t make them laugh…I had paid my attorney with the money they paid me with so I couldn’t give the money back. You get on that stage, you wipe off the tears, you get on stage and you make ‘em laugh. you make them laugh, ‘cause that’s what we do.”
And Sherri said she’ll be sure to include some of her drama in her new material. She says though the part that makes her mad about the whole thing is that she has to go back to being single. And, as she explained, being single means a few different things when you’re in the church.
You know what made me mad, though? Now I’m back in this place of being single. Now I’m back in the place where I gotta be the usher, the greeter, I gotta teach your kids in Sunday school…that’s what the single folks did. I got married and I got to come to the church and listen to the sermon. Now I’m back in that place where people say ‘How are you , Sherri? And I’m saying ‘I’m blessed and highly favored because God is bringing my man today. I’m back in that place.”
Will she get married again?
“I believe in marriage. But you know when they say ‘This is her companion.’ I think I want to be a companion. Because love is expensive. When I go on a date, I’m going to carry papers with me. This is a prenup, this a confidentiality agreement. Before you even ask me ‘How you doing, I wanna holla at you,’ sign your name right here.”
But Sherri says no matter what comes her way, she knows things are going to work out for her in the long run.
“I’m a survivor. You ain’t gon keep me down. I got a child that I have to take care of. And thank God for His grace and mercy ’cause when you fall down you get back up…I keep tripping though.”
You can listen to this portion of Sherri’s co-hosting gig in the video below.
Kandi Burruss has been getting a lot of prenup backlash. But we don’t think Todd got such a raw deal. From weight gain clauses to baby buy outs, Hollywood prenuptial agreements can get crazy. Todd should probably thank his lucky stars that he got off light.
‘The Only Reason We’re Not Together Are The Choices I’ve Made:’ Robin Thicke Speaks Openly About The Demise Of His Marriage
Though their split was highly publicized, there was not much that we were made aware of about Paula Patton and Robin Thicke’s separation. We knew that the split was her idea. We know that he wants her back. We know that he dedicated an entire album to her. But other than that, not much has been confirmed regarding what actually caused the split in the first place. Well, until now that is. Earlier today, Robin sat down for a really candid discussion with HOT 97 regarding his new album, “Paula,” and the demise of their marriage.
For one, as many have predicted, Robin says that he is at fault for their marriage being over.
“I’m a man. I messed up and I had to lie for a while,” the “Get Her Back” singer bluntly told Ebro Darden. “Then I stopped lying.”
While he admits that coming clean was good for his own personal well-being, it meant lights out for his relationship with Paula.
“That was actually good for me because I was tired of lying. But this whole album is me revealing everything.”
“At this point in our relationship, the only reason we aren’t together are the choices I’ve made.”
Of course, nearly everyone has noticed that their marriage seemed to fall apart around the time that his career took an extremely successful turn following the release of “Blurred Lines.” To that, Robin confessed that he probably had “a little too much fun” during that time, which didn’t help his marriage. He adds that on the album, some songs are written about Paula, while others are written directly to her. However, while he sort of admits to stepping out on Paula, he says that outside women were not the only contributing factor in their breakup. The “Blurred Lines” singer admits to changing and becoming extremely selfish.
“The album is exactly what happens when you lose the love of your life and you’re trying to figure it out in your head to move on and get through it all.”
Robin and Paula haven’t been in each other’s presence in four months. While he clearly wants her back, he revealed that this separation is probably for the best—at least for right now.
“I haven’t seen her for four months,” he admitted. “We’re cool. She’s the best girl in the world, a great mother and still a good friend, but because we just weren’t ever together anymore and I still had so much I wanted to apologize for and things I wanted to take responsibility for, so that’s pretty much what the album’s about. But I also want to wish her well and let her know that she’s a great person and she deserves to have a good life.”
However, if given the chance, Robin says he’d jump at the opportunity to be back with Paula.
“If you’ve been together that long, you kind of became adults together instead of being adults and then meeting,” he said. If he and Patton take the time to grow as individuals, the singer-songwriter thinks reconciling is possible: “Maybe a year or two off, we’ll become our own people without each other and then it will be meant to be.”
Watch Robin’s full interview below. Thoughts?
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It can’t be an easy thing to watch your parents go through a divorce. Particularly, when there’s a good chance that when you step outside, you’re going to be interrogated about your parents’ very personal, and in this case, messy business.
This is the life child rapper, actor and son of Master P., Romeo Miller has been living as of late. And recently, when he ran into TMZ, he wanted to let them know how he was feeling about them trying to get all up in his parent’s business.
“I got one thing to say to TMZ. Stop making me feel like I’m the one going through a divorce. I’m the kid. I’m 20 years old. That’s my parent’s business. Everybody’s happy. They’re just handling business, that’s all it is. I’m not trying to answer anymore things about my parents. I love both of my parents. Shout out to all the kids out there who have to go through a divorce.”
I understand what he’s saying. It’s true. They should stop asking him and he should just refuse to comment.
On an entirely separate note, umm…why is Lil Romeo trying to pretend like he’s 20 years old. Homeboy was definitely born in August 1989, making him 24 years old, not 20. Perhaps that’s that Hollywood round down. But come on son, don’t front like we don’t know you went to USC (enrolling in 2007) and starred in many an ICDC commercial. And that’s no shade; there should be more rappers encouraging higher education, I’m just saying we know you ain’t nobody’s twenty.
But I digress. The point of the matter is he’s right, TMZ should fall back and let them resolve this matter in house.
You can take a look at the full street interview in the video below.
T.I. and Tiny have been living out their private marital issues in a rather public manner lately. At one point, things got so bad, that fans were unsure if the couple would make it. But it looks like the couple may have just been expreriencing a rough patch (as most marriages do from time to time) that they were able to work through.
If you’ve been watching the BET Awards along with us tonight, you may have caught a glimpse of the lovebirds looking super cozy in the audience tonight. Not to worry if you didn’t catch it though, Tiny made sure everyone knew that they were at the Nokia Theater as a couple tonight.
In the middle of the show, she shared a photo of herself seated with her hubby (above) along with a caption that reads:
“Guess who’s back RED
Taye Diggs has been a boo in my head for a minute. That smile, that weird way he pronounces certain words and honey, when he puts the glasses on…it’s over. So considering my infatuation, I always find Taye so charming during his interviews. And his recent one with Wendy Williams was no different. He talked about a little bit of everything, including the time he fought the man who broke into his home, how he’s handling his divorce from fellow actress and singer Idina Menzel and what his dating life is like these days. Check out the excerpts from the interview below.
On fighting off the man who broke into his house
“I do not advise this but I was home and my kid Walker was at home as well and me and my baby’s mom we heard something outside. It was after an award show. Be careful with tweeting and all that stuff. We tweeted that we were away and then people knew, or they thought that we weren’t home yet.
The garage door was unlocked and we were sitting and I saw the door open from the other side. So I immediately ran and then I saw this dark figure take off through the backyard. So then I cut through the house and I was in like pajamas, bare feet. It was night time. And in my head all I was thinking was that this person tried to come in and my child was there.
So then I ran and I jumped on the dude. He was trying to get in the getaway car, I grabbed him, pulled him… I’m not this dude. I’m not this dude. I play this dude on TV I didn’t even…I was not thinking. You hear these stories about the mothers picking up cars. I get that. Father’s have that too because I was acting in some kind of way.
And it was funny because obviously we’re split up now but I pulled the dude from the car, the getaway care went away and I’m straddling over him and I’m talking about my family and slapping him around a bit and then I look at Idina and I’m like “Call 9-1-1! Call 9-1-1 man!” and she’s like “I did, I did, I did. I called 9-1-1
So we get into a spat about who called 9-1-1. “
On his divorce
Wendy: How are you handling it?
I’m hanging in there. I mean it’s not awesome.
Wendy: Are you a mess?
Ooh it’s ok, I’ll be fine. Ima be fine. But all of my married friends are like ‘Oh, you get to go out and stay out as late as you want.’
Dating after divorce
Wendy: Are you in the clubs?
Every once in a while but it’s a completely different situation. I’m old. The other day I was at a benefit and they have the after parties after a benefit. So I’m kind of feeling myself, I’m looking fly. It’s kind of a classy crowd. And I’m chilling and then all of a sudden I get a text. And my friends see me look at the text and then immediately jump up. They’re like ‘Oh you got a booty call.’ I’m like no my baby mama just called and said I forgot his baby blanket. I had to run home to the hotel, get the baby blanket and bring it to him and then I made it back to the party and they were like ‘Oh you had a quickie.’ And I was like it was not a quickie.
Wendy: Are you dating?
I’m hanging out with people. I’m meeting…
Wendy: It doesn’t seem to me like you’d have a hard time dating
Well…I’ve never had game, period. Because I was really nerdy. These days I’m a single dad so if I see someone I’m like ‘So do you have kids? Is he out of diapers yet?’ I literally reached into my pocket the other day and brought out two pacifiers.
Hmm so that makes me wonder if things aren’t as serious as they seemed with the woman he was recently photographed with…can’t be if they’re not exclusive and he’s not “claiming her” just yet. But he could be playing coy…
Anyway, take a look at the full video below where Taye also talks about parenting his son Walker. It’s pretty cute stuff.
Siohvaughn Funches-Wade loves a good lawsuit. In the past, she has filed suits against her ex-husband, Dwyane Wade, and his soon-to-be-wife, actress Gabrielle Union. Now, she’s suing Dwyane’s divorce attorney James Pritikin and the Dolton Police Department.
According to the Chicago Sun-Times, Siohvaughn is accusing Dwyane and his attorney of framing her for child abduction. Siohvaughn, who lost a lengthy child custody battle against Dwyane, says in the lawsuit that she was “violently attacked” by Dolton Police Officers in June 2012 at her home.
She goes on to allege that James, Dwyane, Dolton Police and Dwyane’s friend New Lenox Mayor Tim Baldermann “conspired” to have her arrested for child abduction after she failed to turn the kids over to Dwyane following being instructed to do so by a judge. The child abduction charges against Siohvaughn were eventually dropped; however, Pritkin used the incident to argue that Dwyane should be granted full custody of the former couple’s two sons.
Siohvaughn is representing herself in the case and says that during the arrest , she suffered an asthma attack, panic attack and a torn rotator cuff due to the rough nature that the officers handled her. She is seeking unspecified damages in excess of $50,000. As you may recall, Siohvaughn also filed a suit against Dwyane last December in which she accused him of being physically abusive to her.
If you’re a J. Cole fan you may have caught the surprise ending of his video for the single, “She Knows”. I won’t give it away if you want to check it out, but the moral of the story is if you’re going to cheat, try not to be messy about it. It always amazes me how people will cheat so egregiously and then have the nerve to act surprised. It’s all fun and games getting it on with your side piece in the same bed you sleep with your partner in until you’re staring at hidden camera footage with the host of Cheaters.
In this digital day of screen caps and Catfish, it’s becoming harder and harder to get your creep on and what’s even worse is that children are increasingly more technologically savvy than their parents meaning that all too often they become aware of a parents’ infidelity before their spouse even does. I had a friend who discovered her dad was cheating on her mom just because he didn’t know what the “Trash” folder was for. In my opinion, this is the worst kind of secret you could ever place your child in a position to have to keep. It’s right up there with the “bad touch/this is something special between me and you” betrayal. And although some may think I’m being pretty harsh with that comparison, I believe it’s ultimately disrespectful to a child when you force them to deal with adult feelings and make mature decisions before they are prepared for them.
Relationships are complicated enough for children. There are some adults who can’t even make sense of their feelings, so to ask a child or even a young teenager to make sense of complicated emotions like love vs. lust and “growing apart” can be an unrealistic expectation.
J. Cole may be relieving some trauma from his child in the “She Knows” video. The lyrics in his song “Never Told” reveal that he was forced to keep quiet about his own father’s infidelity:
“Could it be cause my father let me know
That he cheated, and somehow I never told
I never told
Hey, you wanna be a man?
Yeah I wanna be a man.
A man don’t run tellin’ mama everything he see.
I ain’t gonna tell.
Alright then man. You’re a man now.
When a child witnesses a parent being unfaithful it sends the indirect message that you don’t respect their mother or father. On top of that, you place a child in the painful of position of choosing to be honest and hurt one parent or protect their bond with the other one. It compromises all the values that parents are supposed to want to teach their children like respect, honesty and integrity. People make mistakes, parents or not, but that doesn’t mean your children should be traumatized because of your carelessness.
If a child chooses to reveal to a parent what they have witnessed, the reaction of the parent could have a serious effect on how honest that child chooses to be in the future. If the parent believes them, the child may feel like they are partially to blame for their parents’ breakup. But if that parent doesn’t validate that child’s feeling or flat out tells them they are wrong, they may never feel free to talk openly again. So often what children say is invalidated or not taken seriously. Especially when it comes to the painful truth, so many parents are quick to discredit their children if it means they can spare their own feelings.
I won’t get into a lecture about avoiding infidelity, but I will say if you are going to cheat, make an effort to protect the ones you love, especially your children. And if they do catch you cheating, don’t ask them to keep it on the low to protect your own ass. Being an adult is all about accepting your flaws and taking the burden off your child to be the bearer of bad news. Once your child catches you cheating it’s time to come clean to your partner and explain to your child the best way possible how you and their mother/father will proceed and take ownership of the part you played in the deception. Cheating is not only disrespectful to your partner, but being careless about it is also disrespectful to your child.
Toya Sharee is a community health educator and parenting education coordinator who has a passion for helping young women build their self-esteem and make well-informed choices about their sexual health. She also advocates for women’s reproductive rights and blogs about everything from beauty to love and relationships. Follow her on Twitter @TheTrueTSharee or visit her blog, Bullets and Blessings.