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These Professions Experience The Highest Divorce Rates

March 21st, 2016 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Apparently, there may be a link between the professions of married partners and the likelihood of said marriages to end in divorce.

According to Fox & Friends Weekend, a study revealed that dentists, optometrists, and podiatrists were the least likely to divorce with divorce rates of less than eight percent. Optometrists actually had the lowest divorce rate, which was just four percent.

Bartenders, dancers, and choreographers, however, experienced the highest divorce rates. Collectively, these professions have an average of a forty percent divorce rate. According to the experts, stress at work plays a significant role in whether or not a marriage will end in divorce.

Of course, we can learn a lot from studies of this nature, and they can sometimes be fun to read; however, at the end of the day, what keeps a marriage together is ultimately how committed both parties are to one another and the relationship.

There’s plenty of doom and gloom statistics out there pertaining to marriage and divorce, but hopefully, it’s not too discouraging for those of us who still believe in marriage. Less than two years ago, the New York Times reported that the institution of marriage was at its strongest and that 70 percent of marriages that began in the ’90s had already celebrated their 15th anniversary. That’s something to get excited about, right?

Afeni Shakur And Whether Or Not Men Deserve Alimony

March 18th, 2016 - By Veronica Wells
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I’ve never been a fan of alimony. In this day in age, when both men and women have the ability to work and provide for themselves, I just don’t see the need. And while I think a stay-at-home mother should be compensated until she can get herself on her feet, there are far too many people who, I believe, take advantage of the system.

No one proves my point more than Gust Davis.

You may not know him by name but his is the husband of Afeni Shakur, Tupac Shakur’s mother. The couple have been married for 12 years but now, according to TMZ, Afeni wants out.

Sadly, the couple never had a prenup. And now, Davis is trying to take advantage. In North Carolina, where Shakur filed, judges are not required to divide property up 50/50. They evaluate each case to determine what’s fair.

Davis is asking for the right to live on a 50 acre ranch in North Carolina, the keys to the houseboats and the Jaguar.

But that’s not the worst of it. In addition to the property, Davis also wants alimony. Davis reported that the Tupac Estate brings in $900k a year. But after expenses, Afeni receives $20,000 a month. As a part of the divorce settlement, Davis is asking for $10,000 a month, half of Afeni’s monthly check from the estate, for the rest of his life.

Shakur has been separated from Davis for more than a year and is currently living in a houseboat in Sausalito, California.

She has also filed documents asking a judge to dismiss Davis’ alimony request.

Davis is, according to TMZ, a minister. I guess he never heard of the scripture, a man who doesn’t work, doesn’t eat.

There is something so heinous about all of this. While I don’t like alimony for anyone, it really grinds my gears when men are asking for it.

Some would call it sexist. But I don’t even think that’s the case here. It’s no secret that there is a real male privilege when it comes to not only employment but compensation for said employee. Men have always and still continue to make more money than women for equal work. It’s a fact. So Davis, and any other man married to a rich or powerful woman, should be able to provide for themselves even if that woman and her money are no longer around. You should always have your own money on the side, in the context of any relationship, in case, God forbid, something happens. The same is certainly true for women who often find themselves trapped in dead or dysfunctional relationships because they’re financially trapped.

I can’t grasp the concept of anyone, from any gender, feeling entitled to a former spouse’s money when they don’t want to be connected to that person through marriage any longer. People will argue that you become accustomed to a type of lifestyle that should continue after the divorce? Why exactly should it continue? Again, unless a man or woman has made a conscious decision not to work to stay home and raise children or keep the house, essentially working without outside compensation, why do you expect your lifestyle to remain the same when you make a serious life change like getting a divorce? The nature of divorce is at its core, a change in lifestyle. Sure, Davis might have been spending Tupac and Afeni’s money when he was married to her; but now that that connection has been severed, how dare he want to live off of a dead man’s estate, simply because he was once connected to his mother? It’s shameful.

Serious Question: Could You Date Your Ex-Husband?

March 16th, 2016 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Could You Date Your Ex-Husband?

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My mama always told me to mind my business when it comes to married folk because married folk are crazy. She advised me never to pick sides when a married couple is at odds because they will fight like cats and dogs, trash talk one another to other people and then give each other a funny look one day, kiss, have sex, make up, and then forget why the hell they were mad at each other in the first place. Meanwhile, everyone else around them is looking around and scratching their heads while wondering what the hell just happened. Apparently, mom’s little theory applies to ex-husbands and ex-wives as well.

After a tumultuous divorce, bitter child support disputes, and a painfully uncomfortable episode of “Fix My Life” where they both admitted they “don’t like” one another, RHOA star Sheree Whitfield and her ex-husband, Bob Whitfield, have made amends. In fact, the celebrity exes are actually dating again. Some fans witnessed their interesting reunion on this past season of “Real Housewives of Atlanta,” but Bob recently discussed their reconciliation with Radar Online and well, the two seem quite fond of each other these days.

According to Bob, the two reconnected last July during a birthday celebration for one of their kids, and their friendship blossomed from there.

“It started because of the birthday party,” he said. “It was kind of a festive occasion, and it was a bowling alley party. So now drinks are involved, jokes are involved, different type of mood. So then it’s like, ‘Let’s try breakfast…’ take it easy and just go little bit by little.”

Eventually, things began to heat up at bit, and the two began to casually date.

“It’s almost like you just take your time with it because we’ve been hanging around each other for a long time,” he explained. “So we know little ways about each other, so how to maneuver. It’s been pretty cool. We ain’t been playing bumper cars, smashing them up.”

He went on to say that their trip to Jamaica, which was filmed for RHOA, kind of sealed the deal for him.

“Going to Jamaica was a challenge because you know I still act a fool getting in the sunshine and the water,” Bob said. “And I got mesmerized because I haven’t seen her up close like that… I couldn’t resist but grab her booty. It was like I got a flashback and I was like, ‘You’re better than I remember.’ Oh my gosh, it’s awesome.”

Interestingly, he admits that although they’re just casually seeing each other, he’s not currently dating anyone else.

“I’ve been kind of low key,” he confessed. “It’s almost like that’s why it feels like an experiment to even me. I’m not saying I’m going to marry the girl next week. But I said, ‘Why couldn’t I build something of substance?’”

“I look at it like this, and I told her this, ‘We’ve still got those issues. S*** will flair up, but you just kind of like have to maneuver around each other,’” he continued. “It’s a delicate song and dance, so everybody takes a chance to lead.”

So yeah, they’re taking things slow, but Bob seems quite hopeful that something solid will come out of this.

“We had our differences and our problems, but I never just gave up on her,” he said. “I feel like I’ve invested a lot. We’ve invested a lot in each other, so I’m not going to just scrap my investment to her. You kept the name for a reason.”

You could have knocked me over with a feather when I heard the news because well, who really saw this coming? But perhaps this serves as a testament that the bond that’s established between husbands and wives are difficult to break—even after divorce papers are signed.

I can’t pretend that this is the first time that I’ve heard about once bitter exes reuniting after divorce. In fact, during a session of premarital counseling, my pastor warned my fiancé and I about flying off of the handle and filing for divorce because we’re hurt or angry. Apparently, he’s seen his share of couples who insisted on divorcing each other only to turn around and later remarry.

Anyway, this brings us to our Serious Question: Could you (or would you) date your ex-husband?

Chris Rock Has A New Girlfriend: Meet Megalyn Echikunwoke

February 17th, 2016 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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#ChrisRock and his new girlfriend actress Megalyn Echikunwoke. She is #Nigerian @chrisrock #megalynechikunwoke

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We’ve talked in the past about whether or not it’s a good idea to date a man who is separated from his wife (the response was something to the effect of, “terrible idea!”). But would you date a guy who is actually actively taking steps to get out of his marriage even though it’s taking longer than planned?

I ask that because Chris Rock, 50, is reportedly dating again. The young woman he’s seeing is an actress named Megalyn Echikunwoke, 32, who has been on the show Damien and Arrow, and she was on his arm as his date for Clive Davis’s pre-Grammy gala this past Sunday. But the pair have reportedly been an item since last year, as People reports that they were also by each other’s side at the Global Citizen Festival in NYC last September.

Echikunwoke has been very supportive of Rock, rocking a CB4 cap on her Instagram page, and retweeting his tweets and promotional messages as he prepares for the Oscars on February 28.

Straight outta Locash! Hope @chrisrock does something from #cb4 at the #oscars2016

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Of course, Rock is still trying to finalize the details of his divorce from Malaak Compton-Rock. The pair would have been married 20 years this November, but Rock filed papers in December of 2014. More than a year later, they’re still trying to figure things out and have had some public clashes, specifically over the South African child they took in years ago.

But Echikunwoke, whom people say looks a lot like a younger version of Compton-Rock, and who is also Nigerian and White, seems very happy with her beau. After the pre-Grammy event, she even shared a photo of the flowers Rock gave her for Valentine’s Day.


My Valentine got me wasted on them goooood roses last night. So hungover. Hope you had a happy V Day. 💋😛

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So with all that being said, I wonder what you would do in a situation like this. I asked my friend if she would entertain a relationship or even just date a guy in the midst of a divorce, and she was actually somewhat open to it.

“Depends on how far along he is in the process,” she said. “I would probably go on a date and see where his head is, but I don’t think I’d want to consistently date until it was officially over.”

And I could understand that. Said guy sounds like he’s actively trying to move on, as opposed to the kind of men who string one woman along while promising to split from their wife “soon.”

But I would have to pass. Divorce can be a long and drawn-out process, not to mention a messy one. The last thing I would want is to get pulled into the contention or the conversation at any point. Also, there is a lot of restructuring going on in a man’s life as he goes through divorce proceedings, including starting over in a new home, figuring out what money and items will be given or divided, and most importantly, there might be some very strong feelings (like love…or anger) still lingering that he might need to work on before stepping back out in the dating field.

There’s nothing wrong with giving a divorcé a chance, but I would probably wait for him to actually be that before trying going forward with anything.

That’s just me, though. Wendy Williams, on the other hand, was more strong with her opinion, a.k.a., her disapproval of Echikunwoke dating Rock while he’s trying to finalize his situation (10:30 mark). But what say you?

Blending Families: Outside Children, Half Siblings And Healing

February 11th, 2016 - By MommyNoire Editor
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By Abiola Abrams

“Mom and Pop were just a couple of kids when they got married. He was eighteen, she was sixteen and I was three.” ~ Billie Holiday

A few months ago my brother married his beautiful soulmate in Jamaica. Excited about the pending nuptials, my family all secured tickets and made plans to celebrate their love. Then, through a series of mis-communications it appeared to us as if my mother, sister and I were not invited to the bridal shower. It seemed that my “half-sister”, whom we also love and adore, was planning the shower as it took place in her building. We were not given the date, time or location of the event although I had offered to help the bride, whom I already considered family, with the shower from day one.

Understandably, there were many tears shed over the fact that the person I’ve known the longest on the planet would be getting married and not only would I be excluded from the pre-nuptial events, but so would my mother.

I grew up with one brother and sister in a house with both of my parents. My father was there about eighty-five percent of the time. There were interludes where he would abruptly and suddenly (from my vantage point) move out without notice or discussion. Now, as an adult, I know that those were the times where he had cheated on my mother and fathered “outside children.” Because kids are never as “dumb” as parents think they are to the goings-on around them, in hindsight I also know that my mother would sometimes confront these women and my father. Ultimately he would move back in and we’d pick up from where we left off as a family with no discussion of the dramatic and traumatic events that had transpired.

Post-Traumatic Love Disorder

My brain protected me from the trauma of much of this growing up by forgetting. After all, I had my own childhood and adolescent dramas to deal with; including being bullied, battling raging eczema and nosebleeds along with severe anxiety and emotional eating. It is only in looking back that I am able to see what was going on with clarity and the links between these situations.

Either by accident or by design, I received the message that my father’s comings and goings were not something to discuss — with anyone. After all he was a pillar of the community and an important person. He was there at every special event and if I ever needed anything I only had to ask. For better or worse, I had the best father I knew of.

Nonetheless, I remember bringing my mom a permission slip so that I could talk to the school therapist and she refused to sign it. “Just talk to me,” she said, but I never felt like I could. This created an intimacy gap in my friendships in addition to severe abandonment and trust issues. It also allowed me to be able to compartmentalize my childhood as, my dad was an incredible father but a terrible husband.

As a passionate living coach I now realize that children learn what they live and how we do anything is how we do everything.

Unblended Families.

It was only ten years ago that we, the three different sects of my father’s American children, found out about each other. There are seven of us siblings living in close enough proximity in New York City, yet we never knew for the most part that all of us existed. Ten years may be long for a romantic relationship or friendship, but it’s not a long time to know a sibling. When siblings are raised together you know that you can fight, make up and move forward. When you’re raised in different households you also may have been taught to handle conflict differently.

The biggest open secret is that my unblended family with pockets of “outside children” and different “baby’s mothers” is not as unique as I once thought we were.

Jamilah Creekmur, author of “Raised by the Mistress” suggests that I write a memoir called “Raised by the Wife.” Perhaps one day I will. For now, I am grateful that my siblings have all made a concerted effort as adults to build close, loving relationships as a family.

After Effects.

My parents are still married and I am learning a great deal from them about how relationships mutate and evolve. Ten years ago when my brother, sister and I confronted my dad about the lie of our Cosby-happy childhood he explained that my mother is his “rock” and “foundation.” He said that he would never survive without her and that these women (and others) were angry that he would never walk away from her – and us. From his perspective, these situations took place when they were “on a break” although the break seemingly always took place after the fact.

I often remark that my mother is stronger than I would ever be as she has more than come to terms with our extended siblings. We have vacationed together a few times all together as an adult family. My mother also has my “half siblings” earmarked on her social media pages as her children. Regretful that she never told us about them growing up she preaches often that no child is responsible for the circumstances of their birth and loves them dearly.

I am grateful that I have parents who are willing to be accountable to their adult children and own up to past grievances.

Healing the Misunderstanding.

Regarding the shower snafu, it was almost two months after the wedding that I called a sister’s council for us to discuss what had transpired. Yes, even coaches have challenges with family wounds. It turns out that my half-sister (I only use that term for clarity here) was somehow believing that we were trying to exclude her and the other siblings. We had all retreated to our angry, hurt corners, upset about the perceived betrayals. We were all experiencing exactly the same feelings!

My siblings were all feeling like they were not “immediate family” and therefore did not really count. Meanwhile, I was feeling like my brother preferred his newer, cooler siblings so we were out. If any one of us had picked up a phone to say, “What is happening?” the incident could have been resolved in five minutes. Instead we had all been living under the myth and veil of betrayal, smiling in each other’s faces through the sadness, for about five months. The thought of it now breaks my heart all over again.

How often do we harbor anger at loved ones that could be solved with a simple conversation? If your family is anything like mine, you grew up with terrible communication practices. As children we were never in on any real conversation, leaving us to piece together what was happening in our lives like detectives. Family members talk about slights to each other, rarely confronting the person for any sort of meaningful dialogue. People stop speaking rather than address primal emotional wounds.

At the heart of our beef and many family dramas was, “I am afraid that I am not being loved. I am being disrespected because you don’t care about me. I am unlovable to you.” People stop speaking for generations over this sort of issue.

Forward Movement.

Our mandate, as women and particularly as mothers, is to do better than generations before us. I sympathize greatly with my mother’s challenges. I can’t imagine trying to cope with your own hurt and betrayal and at the same time trying to figure out what’s best for your kids. The situation was not fair to her and it certainly wasn’t fair to us. What mother wants to willingly sit across a Thanksgiving table with their small children and build a bridge with their husband’s other women? However, if the situation dictates that, we must for the sake of our kids.

Open relationship advocates say that they can easily solve these problems, but it’s only an open relationship if all parties involved agree to it.

Unfortunately while we all swirled around in this soup of hurt and betrayal, my dad like most men, remained oblivious. These situations get written off as women’s drama when the men that catalyzed it stand on the perimeter. I was blessed to be raised with the knowledge that my father loves me unconditionally and would do anything for me. It makes a difference with how I move in the world and who I allow into my life. However, when a daughter sees that her mother is “not enough” she gets the message that she is “not enough” as well.

Coaching the women I am honored to work with and listening to the stories of my friends, I find that our dirty little secret is everyone else’s too. I once had a dinner party and of the twenty guests there, every single one had a multi-family dynamic with “half” siblings and “outside children.” All of African decent, they had different versions of unblended families. It wasn’t the easy blending of “The Brady Bunch!” After all, on “The Brady Bunch” no one had betrayed anyone. The ex spouses were vaguely widowed or divorced. It was never really clear but the exes didn’t seem to exist in the new family paradigm.

Blame, Shame and Guilt?

Casting blame, pointing fingers and trying to recount facts thirty years later helps no one. After all, there are always multiple points of view, including his, hers and the truth. We don’t talk about and heal the multi-family dynamic because there is usually some sort of scandal, lie or secretive behavior involved. When it’s just adults involved, consenting adults can make their foolish choices and move on. When children are involved, however, the situation requires more care and attention.

Regardless of the circumstances of your birth, you matter. There is no such thing as a “bastard.” You are worthy and worth loving. A parent has no half children. The fact that you are here on this planet means that you are a loving expression of the Creator. There is nothing shameful about your existence. The missteps of our parents are not our own. There may be broken families but there are no broken children. It is important for us to know this and teach our children the same. This is particularly important because we often recreate the family patterns we grew up in. Again, children learn what they live.

How can we find healing around this issue, not only for ourselves, but for the next generation? If you were not parented in a healthy fashion, it’s time to re-parent yourself. Look toward forgiveness of yourself, your parents, and anyone else involved.

I honor my parents and the mothers of my siblings for making the best choices they knew how to make at the time. I also honor all of my siblings whom I love with my whole heart. It’s now up to me as an adult to make the best choices I can. This is not easy. I stumble, fall and yes, feel blame, shame and guilt.

Evolution is a process, not an event. What a blessing!

Passionate Living Coach Abiola Abrams gives extraordinary women inspiring advice on healthy relationships, evolved sexuality and getting the love we deserve. You’ve seen her love interventions in magazines from Essence to JET and on shows from MTV’s “Made” to the CW Network’s “Bill Cunningham Show.” Find love class worksheets, advice videos, coaching, and more at “Abiola’s Love University.” Tweet @abiolaTV or #loveclass.

Celebrities Who Were Blindsided By Divorce

February 3rd, 2016 - By Meg Butler
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When celebrity divorce news ends up making headlines, sometimes the fans aren’t the only ones surprised. These celebrities said that they were under the impression that their marriages were doing just fine — until they heard about their split because papers were filed.

We know that celebrity schedules can be very busy. But these men and women deserved a little more than just a warning before their partners decided to break the news to the world that they were on the way out the door.

Have you ever been shocked by the abrupt end of a relationship? Tell us your story in the comment section.

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Mechelle Epps

When news of Mechelle and Mike Epps’s split hit the headlines, Mechelle said it was news to her — and “shocking” because she and her husband were together as late as last month. She wasn’t sure it was really over until she saw paparazzi photos of the man she thought was still her husband walking down the streets of New York City with another woman.

Open Letter To My Child’s Mom: Stop Harming Our Kid

February 2nd, 2016 - By MommyNoire Editor
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Dear Baby Moms,

What’s your problem?

You and I are a wrap, so much so that the marriage could be mummified in the pyramids of Giza. There is just one issue. We have this young child between the two of us, so we are going linked for quite some time. So now, it is all about the child, right? So, why does it feel that its all about you?




And Me.

A wise man once told me something I already knew. He said, “Make sure you have your own relationship with your child so if something goes wrong between you and the mother, your relationship stands on its own.” You know this wise man and clearly he knew you well too, because it wasn’t long after, you started acting a fool. I think he saw something that my rose-colored glasses missed. See, you know and I know I am a helluva father and, based on how you tried to stop the divorce you initiated, a pretty good husband too. However, you seem eternally miserable and you want to bring the baby into the fray.

The child is not a weapon to be used against me. In fact,  you throw grenades, then pick the child up, hiding from shrapnel. Coward.

I know my child. I should say, we know each other well. So, when I am asked, “Are you OK, Daddy?” it is becoming harder and harder to hide. Your harassing texts. Your attempts to argue in front of the kid. Your manipulative ways that you try to sway the baby to your side. In fact, you have tried hard to preemptively tell lies to anybody that will listen, including the police. As a Black man, I definitely have my issues with the police, but even they have told me straight up – they see through your bullsh… The litany of lies…when will it end?

One thing you did not lie about was when you said you would “destroy me through your child.” Well, you didn’t lie about your reckless willingness to attempt such a mighty feat. I have news for you, sweetie, it didn’t work then and it won’t work now. As a parent, I’m indestructible. I  take bumps and bruises well because, I know the light will shine bright on all of your dark deeds in due time. Moreover, I’ll fight as a father to the death for my kid even if she also serves as an Achilles heel for you. You won’t provoke me into doing something damaging to you so that I can freefall into your silly traps.

The funny thing about trying to dig somebody else’s grave is you often can fall in yourself. My mother told me that one.

The divorce was your doing. No amount of begging could get you to halt that process years ago, and begged I did. In hindsight, I was miserable, but was cool with suffering in silence for the good public look in front of family and friends that saw us as a model family. Certainly, I didn’t want to be one of those relationships struck down by divorce. What a disgrace we were, I used to think. So, in some ways you did me a favor. I’ve found extreme happiness, you know, the kind people dream of.

It seems like you take umbrage with my present state and make it duty to disrupt my merriment.

My new girlfriend…is she the reason your attitude has taken a turn for the malicious recently? Or could it be that our child has taken a particular liking to her? Could it be you’ve realized you made a grave mistake? I don’t know and you would never admit such notions.

I don’t need answers.

I need for you to stop the following:

Stop creating friction in front of the child.

Move on with your life.

Get a man.

Or a dog.

Or a cat.

Or a frog.

Whatever you do -get something to pay attention to.

Get a hobby that doesn’t involve meddling in my life.

Better yet, get a job. Its ok to work.

Stop whispering in the child’s ear. She’s not your little spy machine.

Stop calling the police and wasting taxpayer dollars over nothingness.

The child knows when the police are to be called and its not this.

Get help.

Seek a therapist.

Stop trying to turn a child against her father.

Our nuptials are dead, but apparently you are trying to play zombie. It just won’t work. Put the child at center again and realize that all this drama only serves to harm the psyche of an impressionable, young human being that loves her mother and father. I’m not going to talk bad about you. You have repeatedly told me and others that I am a great father. So, why all of this?  Why?

Don’t tell me. Tell yourself. And check yourself before you wreck your kid.
Truly Yours,

Great Dad

Are You Still Friends With Your Ex’s Family?

January 21st, 2016 - By Kweli Wright
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When you’ve been in a serious relationship with someone for a long time, it’s natural for you to be “in” with their family. Their mother becomes your mother; their pesky siblings become your pain-in-the-butt siblings, and their friends become your best buds forever. So what happens when you and your beau hit Itsoverville and decide to go your separate ways?

If you guys ended on a good note, then you’ve probably opted to remain cordial with your now-ex, maybe even friends. So continuing to hang out with his favorite cousin on the weekends or going on those sporadic shopping sprees with his baby sis’ won’t be so complicated. However, if you and your old boo are now each other’s worst nightmares, then this is a whole other bowl of lumped-up gravy.

A bad breakup can not only make you look at him differently, but his family too. Being all up in his mom’s, pop’s, uncles’ and aunties’ faces will be a constant reminder of (“ilk” face) him. And just when you think things can’t get any more vomit-inducing, you start to hear those, “So when are you and my brother getting back together?” or “So, umm…have you spoken to [insert trifling ex’s name here] lately?” lines. And all the bad blood, pain and horrid memories just flood out your poor ol’ heart and mind.

Some of you may have experienced it already, but I know my friend Arielle can personally vouch for the awkward aftermath that can occur when clinging on to an ex’s family. Arielle was in a situation where she stayed in contact with most of her former headache’s family and friends. She had gotten extremely close to his people while they were together, so it was a natural thing for her to keep in touch with them although Jahmir had ripped her little heart to pieces.

Well, after months of being Jah Jah-free, Arielle began to slowly distance herself from his family, too. Because not only would she bump into him while visiting his parents from time-to-time, but she felt like too many of his people were trying to pressure her to get back with him. It was always, “My son is not perfect Arielle, but no man is. He’s made his mistakes but I’ve never seen him love a woman the way he loves you.” Mix the constant attempts at persuasion from his mother with other little nuisances like his brothers trying to set her up to be in the same place with Jahmir at the same time, and you’ve got the perfect pot of “hell naw!”

In Arielle’s case, there was absolutely NO WAY she was going back to Jah Jah, so she decided it was best to separate herself from his pushy family as well. Although Arielle’s attempt to keep it cute with the fam’ didn’t work out so well, I do know of other instances where remaining friends with the family has turned out good, even with not-so-good separations.

But what are your thoughts readers? Should you remain friends with your ex’s family?

Tichina Arnold Announces Divorce

January 15th, 2016 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Splash News

Splash News

Tichina Arnold will be divorcing her husband of three years, People reports.

A spokesperson for the “Survivor’s Remorse” actress dropped the bomb Friday that Arnold and St. Johns University basketball coach Rico Hines would be ending their marriage. While the representative did not offer further details, it is being reported that infidelity is what pushed Arnold to take action.

TMZ is reporting that Arnold discovered a sex tape featuring Hines with another woman.

“It’s over between Rico and I. This is where I part ways and all bets are off,” she reportedly told friends and relatives in a group text in which she also shared the video.

And according to reports, the tape is only the tip of the iceberg. Sources claim that Hines has been unfaithful with at least 20 women—some with whom he had unprotected sex.

“I can’t for the life of me understand why Rico would video himself f—ing ‘raw dog’ ONE of his MANY extraneous whores that ‘trick’ on him for his money,” she reportedly vented in the text.

Sources also claim that Arnold is deeply concerned about sexually transmitted diseases and has plans to get tested. While it is confirmed that the “Martin” actress does want out of the marriage, her spokesperson would not speak on the cheating rumors, neither would Hines.

“This is a private and deeply personal matter between my wife and me, and I do not want to comment any further at this time,” Hines told TMZ.

Arnold and Hines tied the knot in 2012 in a Hawaiian wedding ceremony.

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A Company Is Offering To Pay For Your Wedding Under One Condition

December 18th, 2015 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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If complete strangers offered $10,000 to pay for your wedding, would you take it? What if there were strings?

That’s the exact kind of deal that a startup company called Swanluv is offering to couples who intend to tie the knot within a couple of years.

How it works:

Couples submit an application requesting the funds online. If approved, they’re required to sign a wedding fund agreement, and they receive the money.

The catch:

Should you and your sweetie divorce, you’ll be required to pay back the borrowed money plus the interest that has accrued over time. The money paid back to Swanluv by divorced couples will be used to fund the weddings of engaged couples are who new applicants to the program.

According to their website, the program is completely free for couples who stay married.

Of course, the company has been accused of trying to profit from America’s sucky divorce rate; however, they insist that this isn’t true. Instead, they say that they believe in love and want “to keep the dream alive.”

Swanluv insists that they don’t profit from the divorces in any way, adding that they make their money from advertising partnerships.

“100% of the money collected from members who are later divorced is used to provide funds for future couples’ dream weddings. Swanluv keeps the dream alive,” the website reads. ‘

While tempting, I don’t believe that I could bring myself to sign a contract like this. What about you?