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T.I. and Tiny have been living out their private marital issues in a rather public manner lately. At one point, things got so bad, that fans were unsure if the couple would make it. But it looks like the couple may have just been expreriencing a rough patch (as most marriages do from time to time) that they were able to work through.
If you’ve been watching the BET Awards along with us tonight, you may have caught a glimpse of the lovebirds looking super cozy in the audience tonight. Not to worry if you didn’t catch it though, Tiny made sure everyone knew that they were at the Nokia Theater as a couple tonight.
In the middle of the show, she shared a photo of herself seated with her hubby (above) along with a caption that reads:
“Guess who’s back RED
Taye Diggs has been a boo in my head for a minute. That smile, that weird way he pronounces certain words and honey, when he puts the glasses on…it’s over. So considering my infatuation, I always find Taye so charming during his interviews. And his recent one with Wendy Williams was no different. He talked about a little bit of everything, including the time he fought the man who broke into his home, how he’s handling his divorce from fellow actress and singer Idina Menzel and what his dating life is like these days. Check out the excerpts from the interview below.
On fighting off the man who broke into his house
“I do not advise this but I was home and my kid Walker was at home as well and me and my baby’s mom we heard something outside. It was after an award show. Be careful with tweeting and all that stuff. We tweeted that we were away and then people knew, or they thought that we weren’t home yet.
The garage door was unlocked and we were sitting and I saw the door open from the other side. So I immediately ran and then I saw this dark figure take off through the backyard. So then I cut through the house and I was in like pajamas, bare feet. It was night time. And in my head all I was thinking was that this person tried to come in and my child was there.
So then I ran and I jumped on the dude. He was trying to get in the getaway car, I grabbed him, pulled him… I’m not this dude. I’m not this dude. I play this dude on TV I didn’t even…I was not thinking. You hear these stories about the mothers picking up cars. I get that. Father’s have that too because I was acting in some kind of way.
And it was funny because obviously we’re split up now but I pulled the dude from the car, the getaway care went away and I’m straddling over him and I’m talking about my family and slapping him around a bit and then I look at Idina and I’m like “Call 9-1-1! Call 9-1-1 man!” and she’s like “I did, I did, I did. I called 9-1-1
So we get into a spat about who called 9-1-1. “
On his divorce
Wendy: How are you handling it?
I’m hanging in there. I mean it’s not awesome.
Wendy: Are you a mess?
Ooh it’s ok, I’ll be fine. Ima be fine. But all of my married friends are like ‘Oh, you get to go out and stay out as late as you want.’
Dating after divorce
Wendy: Are you in the clubs?
Every once in a while but it’s a completely different situation. I’m old. The other day I was at a benefit and they have the after parties after a benefit. So I’m kind of feeling myself, I’m looking fly. It’s kind of a classy crowd. And I’m chilling and then all of a sudden I get a text. And my friends see me look at the text and then immediately jump up. They’re like ‘Oh you got a booty call.’ I’m like no my baby mama just called and said I forgot his baby blanket. I had to run home to the hotel, get the baby blanket and bring it to him and then I made it back to the party and they were like ‘Oh you had a quickie.’ And I was like it was not a quickie.
Wendy: Are you dating?
I’m hanging out with people. I’m meeting…
Wendy: It doesn’t seem to me like you’d have a hard time dating
Well…I’ve never had game, period. Because I was really nerdy. These days I’m a single dad so if I see someone I’m like ‘So do you have kids? Is he out of diapers yet?’ I literally reached into my pocket the other day and brought out two pacifiers.
Hmm so that makes me wonder if things aren’t as serious as they seemed with the woman he was recently photographed with…can’t be if they’re not exclusive and he’s not “claiming her” just yet. But he could be playing coy…
Anyway, take a look at the full video below where Taye also talks about parenting his son Walker. It’s pretty cute stuff.
Siohvaughn Funches-Wade loves a good lawsuit. In the past, she has filed suits against her ex-husband, Dwyane Wade, and his soon-to-be-wife, actress Gabrielle Union. Now, she’s suing Dwyane’s divorce attorney James Pritikin and the Dolton Police Department.
According to the Chicago Sun-Times, Siohvaughn is accusing Dwyane and his attorney of framing her for child abduction. Siohvaughn, who lost a lengthy child custody battle against Dwyane, says in the lawsuit that she was “violently attacked” by Dolton Police Officers in June 2012 at her home.
She goes on to allege that James, Dwyane, Dolton Police and Dwyane’s friend New Lenox Mayor Tim Baldermann “conspired” to have her arrested for child abduction after she failed to turn the kids over to Dwyane following being instructed to do so by a judge. The child abduction charges against Siohvaughn were eventually dropped; however, Pritkin used the incident to argue that Dwyane should be granted full custody of the former couple’s two sons.
Siohvaughn is representing herself in the case and says that during the arrest , she suffered an asthma attack, panic attack and a torn rotator cuff due to the rough nature that the officers handled her. She is seeking unspecified damages in excess of $50,000. As you may recall, Siohvaughn also filed a suit against Dwyane last December in which she accused him of being physically abusive to her.
If you’re a J. Cole fan you may have caught the surprise ending of his video for the single, “She Knows”. I won’t give it away if you want to check it out, but the moral of the story is if you’re going to cheat, try not to be messy about it. It always amazes me how people will cheat so egregiously and then have the nerve to act surprised. It’s all fun and games getting it on with your side piece in the same bed you sleep with your partner in until you’re staring at hidden camera footage with the host of Cheaters.
In this digital day of screen caps and Catfish, it’s becoming harder and harder to get your creep on and what’s even worse is that children are increasingly more technologically savvy than their parents meaning that all too often they become aware of a parents’ infidelity before their spouse even does. I had a friend who discovered her dad was cheating on her mom just because he didn’t know what the “Trash” folder was for. In my opinion, this is the worst kind of secret you could ever place your child in a position to have to keep. It’s right up there with the “bad touch/this is something special between me and you” betrayal. And although some may think I’m being pretty harsh with that comparison, I believe it’s ultimately disrespectful to a child when you force them to deal with adult feelings and make mature decisions before they are prepared for them.
Relationships are complicated enough for children. There are some adults who can’t even make sense of their feelings, so to ask a child or even a young teenager to make sense of complicated emotions like love vs. lust and “growing apart” can be an unrealistic expectation.
J. Cole may be relieving some trauma from his child in the “She Knows” video. The lyrics in his song “Never Told” reveal that he was forced to keep quiet about his own father’s infidelity:
“Could it be cause my father let me know
That he cheated, and somehow I never told
I never told
Hey, you wanna be a man?
Yeah I wanna be a man.
A man don’t run tellin’ mama everything he see.
I ain’t gonna tell.
Alright then man. You’re a man now.
When a child witnesses a parent being unfaithful it sends the indirect message that you don’t respect their mother or father. On top of that, you place a child in the painful of position of choosing to be honest and hurt one parent or protect their bond with the other one. It compromises all the values that parents are supposed to want to teach their children like respect, honesty and integrity. People make mistakes, parents or not, but that doesn’t mean your children should be traumatized because of your carelessness.
If a child chooses to reveal to a parent what they have witnessed, the reaction of the parent could have a serious effect on how honest that child chooses to be in the future. If the parent believes them, the child may feel like they are partially to blame for their parents’ breakup. But if that parent doesn’t validate that child’s feeling or flat out tells them they are wrong, they may never feel free to talk openly again. So often what children say is invalidated or not taken seriously. Especially when it comes to the painful truth, so many parents are quick to discredit their children if it means they can spare their own feelings.
I won’t get into a lecture about avoiding infidelity, but I will say if you are going to cheat, make an effort to protect the ones you love, especially your children. And if they do catch you cheating, don’t ask them to keep it on the low to protect your own ass. Being an adult is all about accepting your flaws and taking the burden off your child to be the bearer of bad news. Once your child catches you cheating it’s time to come clean to your partner and explain to your child the best way possible how you and their mother/father will proceed and take ownership of the part you played in the deception. Cheating is not only disrespectful to your partner, but being careless about it is also disrespectful to your child.
Toya Sharee is a community health educator and parenting education coordinator who has a passion for helping young women build their self-esteem and make well-informed choices about their sexual health. She also advocates for women’s reproductive rights and blogs about everything from beauty to love and relationships. Follow her on Twitter @TheTrueTSharee or visit her blog, Bullets and Blessings.
‘My Child Can’t Afford To See Mommy Having A Nervous Breakdown:’ Sherri Shepherd Speaks Out About Divorce
Last month, we told you that Sherri Shepherd’s husband of two years, Lamar Sally, filed for divorce and demanded custody of their unborn child. Days later, Sherri also filed for divorce. Now, the actress and comedian is speaking out about the disintegration of her second marriage. While a divorce can be very devastating, Sherri says that the only thing that she can do at this point is move forward.
“When the dust settles, you figure out what went wrong—but as long as you’re alive and you can breathe, you [can] get up and keep going. For me, my child can’t afford to see Mommy having a nervous breakdown,” she told Us Weekly. “It’s not in the cards.”
To make matters even more difficult, details of the split have been highly publicized, but the “View” host says that she continues to remind herself that things could always be worse.
“I hope that my character and my integrity will scream louder,” she added. “There’s always someone worse off than you,” she said of her perspective in life. “You have to really sit down and be thankful for the things that you have.”
As for the advice she’d offer people going through challenging break-ups, Sherri instructs divorcees not to be too down on themselves for selecting the wrong partner.
“I say you can’t beat yourself up,” Shepherd told Us, “when you know you’ve made the wrong choice in a guy…” She explained, “You look, you do some introspective work, and you try not to make the same mistake.”
Even if you happen to make the same mistake again, she advises against dwelling on it for too long.
“If you do, get back up, dust your feet off, and start walking and moving forward.”
As for how she’s personally making it through this tough time, Sherri credits her friends.
“I have really amazing friends.” Sherri explained. “I have a lot of really wonderful friends [who] say ‘erase that!'”
We’re glad to see that she’s staying positive.
We’ve heard of quite a few stories over the years where an angry wife took to the Internet to expose her cheating husband. But this story has a bit of a different twist. An Australian newlywed by the name of Dan recently took to Gum Tree (similar to Craigslist) to resell his wife’s wedding dress in a post titled, “Wedding Dress for Bride Seeking Eventual Infidelity.” Judging by the post, the poor guy discovered that his wife of two years cheated (or planned to cheat) with his best friend! The posting reads:
“Due to be married soon? Not planning on staying faithful? Want to sleep with one of your soon-to-be husband’s closest friends? Then THIS is the wedding dress for you.
This stunning, tuille swathed, ivory bridal gown has a proven track record of producing an adulterous, deceitful, double-crossing and traitorous ‘soulmate.’
A one of a kind garment designed by Benedict Arnold, believed to be derived from the very cloth Judas Iscariot himself wore to the Garden of Gethsemane to betray the only son of God – Jesus Christ.
This harlot-sized ensemble will make you the envy of your trampish posse on your fraudulent wedding day.
As an added bonus, this dress gives you the ‘entitlement’ to legally obtain over half of your husband-to-be’s worldly possessions.
This dress is guaranteed to provide you with approximately two years of reasonable wedded mediocrity before the complete and utter disintegration of your relationship due to your extramarital promiscuity.
Cosmetically, the garment is in better condition than the marriage – not looking for much. Make an offer.”
Since the post was first made on June 8, it has been viewed close to 200,000 times; however, the dress has yet to be sold. Poor thing.
It’s always so sad to see a marriage end. And even though it tends to happen quite often in Hollywood, when a couple has put in so many years, you start to assume they’re going to make it.
Sadly, that doesn’t appear to be the case with Melanie Griffith and her husband of 18 years Antonio Banderas.
Griffith’s legal documents cite irreconcilable differences as the cause.
The documents filed by noted divorce attorney Laura Wasser show that Griffith is seeking child support and sole physical custody of the couple’s only child together Stella, though she’ll turn 18 in September.
Griffith is also seeking spousal support.
Though the documents don’t list a date of separation, sources close to the two say their divorce is amicable, though they may have problems splitting the property. They have a lot of real estate in both Spain and the U.S.
Sadly, this is Griffith’s fourth divorce and Antonio’s second.
She may no longer be a cast member on VH1’s “Basketball Wives,” but Jennifer Williams is far from done with reality TV. Last March, we told you that the long-legged beauty was in the process of developing her very own reality show with “Love & Hip Hop” visionary Mona Scott-Young. It’s unclear when the series will debut, but in the meantime, fans can catch the former “Basketball Wives” star tomorrow night on E! Williams announced earlier today that she will be appearing on “True Hollywood Story: Reality Ex Wives”.
According to TV Guide, the episode will profile “reality stars who have split up.” During the one-hour special, the ladies will discuss “how the pressures of appearing on television affected their marriages, plus the trials and tribulations they faced off-camera” will be explored.
“Five of Tinseltown’s most infamous ex-wives will share personal stories about their high-profile relationships and unleash the drama behind their very public divorces,” E! Online further explains.
Joining Williams for the special will be Courtney Stodden (Doug Hutchison), Linda Hogan (Hulk Hogan), Adrianne Curry (“My Fair Brady”) and Countess Luann De Lesseps (“The Real Housewives of New York”). As previously stated, “True Hollywood Story: Reality Ex Wives” is set to air Thursday, May 22 at 8/7c.
Sounds interesting. Will you watch?
Just after Sherri Shepherd and Lamar Sally signed their prenuptial agreement back in 2011, Lamar reportedly wanted to amend the agreement. According to TMZ, the amendment included clauses about fitness, sex and submissiveness. A few of those alterations read as follows:
– “I respect my husband’s opinions and recognize him as the leader of our home. I will always speak well of my husband.”
— “I enjoy having sex with my husband. I crave intimacy with him and want to be uninhibited and free in our lovemaking.”
— “MY BODY IS IMPORTANT TO ME. I STRIVE TO MAINTAIN A HEALTHY BODY WEIGHT AND EXERCISE AT LEAST THREE TIMES A WEEK.” (HIS emphasis)
— “It is my joy to submit to my husband as a way to honor God.”
Sherri, of course, rejected amended prenup, but it’s pretty odd that he’d try to get those things in writing. Lamar recently responded to reports regarding the amendded prenup and although TMZ obtained a copy of the amendment in question, he’s insiting that never wanted Sherri to sign it.
“I did not want her to sign an amendment to our prenup,” he said.
It looks like Sherri Shepherd’s custodial problems are extended beyond her impending divorce from estranged husband, Lamar Sally, who is already requesting custody of their unborn son. According to TMZ, Sherri is also being taken to court by her ex-husband, Jeffrey Tarpley, over custody of their 9-year-old special needs son.
Jeffrey filed an emergency custodial request back in April, asking to modify their current custody arrangement. He stated in court documents that he wants full custody. In his filing, he insisted that Sherri’s demanding work schedule has caused her to be a neglectful mother who consistently leaves their son in the care of “unskilled nannies.” He went on to say that as a result of Sherri’s absence, his son is still reading at a 2nd-grade level, wears Velcro shoes because he can’t tie his laces, is falling behind in school and is suffering from low self-esteem.
The accusations don’t end there though. Jeffrey also alleges that hygiene has become an issue for the child because Sherri has failed to teach him how to properly care for himself. He expressed that while he would like be around to help out with the boy, he lives in California, so it’s impossible for him to be there on a consistent basis because Sherri lives in New Jersey. He also says that there’s no way he can undo the damage that Sherri has already done to their son during his short visits, which is why he wants Jeffrey Jr. to come and live with him full-time. We should also note that Jeffrey Sr. made his custody filing before Sherri’s current husband Lamar Sally filed his.
Sherri has responded to Jeffrey Sr.’s request and according to Sherri, he’s an absentee parent who does not deserve to be a part of his son’s life. A family court judge denied the emergency request, but set a hearing date for July to settle the dispute.
Things aren’t looking so good for our girl right now.