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I once read an article about Jenny McCarthy where she stated that her famous ex Jim Carrey is no longer close to her son now that they’ve broken up. Jenny has a son from a previous marriage who Carrey became very close to during their five-year relationship, which ended in 2010. Fast forward to 2014 and McCarthy is now engaged to Donnie Wahlberg. I’m guessing…or maybe hoping…that Wahlberg’s relationship with her son is just as close, if not closer than the one he shared with Carrey, but child/step-parent relationships can be very complex. Which brings me to this question: Should step-parents be allowed, or required, to stay in a stepchild’s life even after a breakup or divorce?
Some step-parents who have divorced someone with a child might not care if they no longer have contact with the child depending on what that relationship was like. The child might not be extremely affected either, especially if he never really became attached to his step-parent in the first place. But what about the kids who grew up with a step-parent who treated him like his/her own and now has to separate from that parent? The devastation could be the same as if he were separating from a biological parent. And if the couple shared a biological child, then a stepchild might also suffer from the possibility of becoming separated from a sibling that he’s bonded with.
Then there’s a case like Jenny McCarthy, where she’s now moved on to a new guy who will be in her son’s life. Perhaps Jim Carrey felt that it would be best to distance himself from her child because he knew that one day she’d move on to someone else who would play a fatherly role. And if Carrey is dating someone new himself, would she take kindly to him staying in his ex’s life by remaining close to her son? I think a case can be made that if a couple doesn’t share a biological child, and were never married, then there’s no reason for an ex to remain in your life period for the sake of child that doesn’t belong to the both of them.
So what is the protocol in situations like this one? My guess is that there is no set rule when it comes to step-parent/child relationships since none are exactly the same. It would depend on the bond that was developed…or not. And it would also depend on how the relationship ended between the parents, and the maturity level of the adults involved as well.
Marrying someone with children is not a decision to make lightly when there’s a possibility that you’d have a huge impact on a child. If that child lives with a step-parent, then that person will be in a position to help raise a child, mold him and shape his views and outlook on life. If the child bonds with the step-parent, then the relationship becomes independent of the biological parent, therefore making a breakup very painful. In this case, both adults should give proper attention to the impact their divorce would have on the child. This is where maturity makes all the difference.
It would be a biological parent’s legal right to keep his or her child away from a step-parent in the case of a divorce (unless that step-parent has legally adopted the child or has been granted custody), but if he or she sees that it’s hurting the child, then the best thing to do in that situation is remain cordial with your ex so that the child can maintain contact if he or she wants to. The step-parent should also keep that door open should the child still crave his or her love, attention and guidance. While a step-parent may not be able to demand visitation for a child that isn’t biologically his/hers, it wouldn’t be unreasonable to request some time together if a bond has developed over years that would be no different than if the two shared DNA.
If the child is of an age where he or she can express themselves freely, then consider their feelings in the breakup and ask them what they’d like to do. Some may be so young that they can’t properly express their desires without upsetting either parent, in which case the parents should use their best judgement as to what is in the child’s best interest. But if you’re dealing with teenage children, then they can continue the relationship with the step-parent or let it drift away. In this case, a biological parent should just step aside and allow your ex to come to his games or his graduation and support the child together. And ideally, isn’t that what one would want? After all, more love is always better.
We are sad to report our favorite girl from the “The View,” Sherri Shepherd will soon be a divorcee. Her husband of almost three years, Lamar Sally, reportedly filed for divorce on May 2. TMZ reports, the couple did not have children and were married in Chicago, August 2011.
TMZ also notes:
Lamar is being represented by Mark Vincent Kaplan … who famously represented Kevin Federline during his divorce from Britney Spears.
This was Shepherd’s second marriage; her first ended in 2009 after eight years of together. Shepherd learned her ex-husband, Jeff Tarpley who is the father of her son Jeffrey, had an affair. So far there’s no word on why Lamar filed the papers. We reached out to a rep for Sherri Shepherd but didn’t receive a response. We’re sending positive thoughts toward Sherri’s way!
Man…some of y’all swear that T.I. and Tiny aren’t going through something. The couple themselves, claim they’re cool. But after that very public argument at the Grammys, we’ve been watching them…closely. There are the randoms on Instagram, which Tiny personally handled, the beach booty shots that T.I. didn’t like and most recently the news that he purchased another house…to be closer to the studio.
Now, there seems to be more incriminating evidence that would seem to suggest The Family Hustle couple is on the outs with one another right now. T.I. recently released his remix to Jhene Aiko’s “The Worst” and the lyrics seem to be aimed directly at his wife Tiny, addressing all of the stories we just linked to above.
Well maybe I’ma just go spend $4 mill on crib…
All the kids wanna know where they little brother’s at
Got damn I ain’t even told my mother yet.
Yeah, I know I was clowning
I know you wasn’t just going to take that laying down and
I’ll be the first to say it, I was dead wrong…
But if it isn’t worth shooting my in the head don’t
take to social to try me
Putting folk all in our BI all on IG
Nah, I don’t believe it, I don’t wanna see it
Maybe I wake up tomorrow it’ll be deleted
You out the country in bikinis on beaches
While I’m in the studio doing features like…
Hmm…sounds pretty damning to me. I mean, who else could he be talking about? The only thing I could see though, is that this is all a hoax, a verse to make fun of all the rumors that are surrounding the couple right now. But I don’t know…
Anyway, you can take a listen to the entire song here and let us know what you think? What’s going on with these two?
‘Everyone Acts Like I’m The Only Person Who Ever Filed For Divorce:’ Kelis Talks Nas Split & Dating Post Divorce
Kelis Rogers has been a busy bee these days. In addition to releasing her new album, “Food,” she is also the star of a new show on The Cooking Channel titled “Saucy & Sweet.” While promoting her projects in New York City, the singer-turned-chef stopped by Power 105.1′s The Breakfast Club where she discussed her split from Nas, dating post divorce and the nasty rumors, which have been floating around about her.
“I went to culinary school about four years ago. I love to cook. Everything just kind of came together,” she explained. “Between music and food, it all just kind of comes together anyway. At a good party, there’s always food and music. I have been doing music for so long, I just felt like doing something else and challenge myself. It was one of the best things I’ve ever done. I had a great time.”
The singer also discussed what separates her from other artists and why there’s usually such a long period of time between music releases.
“I don’t really get low, I just don’t rush stuff out the way people do. Like, I usually put an album out every three to four years. I tour it, make money, hang out. I have a kid, so you know, I like to live my life.”
As for what her current relationship with ex-husband, Nas, is like, Kelis says they’re in a positive place.
“We’re good,” she confessed. “Everyone acts like I’m the only person who ever filed for divorce. It happens.”
“At the end of the day, we were married for a fairly long time. We have a child together. And that is what it is.”
Though the former hip hop power couple has been divorced since 2010, talk of their split was reignited two summers ago when Nas released the art work for his 2012 album, “Life Is Good,” in which he posed with what appeared to be Kelis’ signature green wedding dress.
“It was the slip the to petticoat of my dress [that he posed with],” Kelis clarified. “I actually have my dress and it’s fabulous. It looks nothing like what’s on the cover.”
The 34-year-old mom also says that she has been dating since the divorce four years ago and admits that she has run into a few suitors who appeared to have the potential to sweep her off of her feet like Nas once did.
“I’m actually in a really good place right now. It’s nice. My son is four, actually he’ll almost be five. So everything is kind of settled, I’m in my mommyhood. I feel good. I got an album out and I feel like I can sort of do that… you know, date and take it easy.”
She adds that a man with a sense of humor is always a plus—and height doesn’t hurt either.
“I like to laugh. I think that’s always the easiest thing for a woman. You know, find someone who makes you laugh and it’s like, okay.”
“I think it should be easy and it shouldn’t be complicated. We’re adults and it shouldn’t take a lot of explanations and sort of like, making it work. It either does or it doesn’t.”
Kelis also discussed those ugly rumors that her son isn’t actually by Nas.
“I never heard that one, actually,” she revealed. “To be honest, I don’t listen to a lot of stuff about me. I don’t read a lot of stuff about me. It doesn’t impact how I live my day. I’m sure there’s stuff out there, people say stuff.”
Watch Kelis’ full interview on the next page.
“Y’all know I’m going through a separation, but I’m not going without a fight,” Robin told his audience during a February concert. “I want my baby back.”
Well if recent rumors are true, either Paula has made it undeniably evident that there’s no chance for reconciliation or Robin simply didn’t have as much fight in him as he thought he did. According to Life & Style, the “Lost Without You” singer has been living like a bachelor at the estranged couple’s marital home.
After a night out a 1Oak nightclub in West Hollywood, sources say Robin invited 10 of the women he was partying with back to his place for an invite-only “no-pants party.” Once he and the ladies arrived at his residence, insiders claim he stripped down to his boxers and began serving drinks.
“All of the girls were sitting on his bed; some of them were naked, and he asked each to kiss him on the lips,” adds one insider. “He kissed five of them in a row. Eventually most people left, but some stayed behind. It was all uncomfortable to watch.”
Insiders went on to say that he made his intentions known quite early.
“Robin didn’t force anything, but he made it clear he wanted to have sex with everyone there. He was drunk and clearly enjoying himself.”
It’s unclear whether or not the allegations are true. However, history has taught us that Robin is a big time ladies’ man.
‘I Only Wish Her The Best:’ Apollo Nida Talks Status Of Marriage To Phaedra Parks And Criminal Investigation
Last week Apollo Nida’s alleged accomplice, Gayla St. Julien, pled guilty to fraud charges and was sentenced to more than five years in prison. With Apollo’s fateful day quickly approaching and his future still hanging in the balance, the “Real housewives of Atlanta” star spoke with Sister 2 Sister about how he’s feeling regarding the impending charges.
“I don’treally get nervous,” the fitness instructor explained. “And this is not just boasting or bragging. Phaedra – I’m sure she’s nervous because at the end of the day, I’m putting my career in jeopardy.”
As for how he made it through his last prison stint, the father of two says he turned to religion.
“I studied three religions when I was down: Buddhism, Islam and Christianity. I also led a ministry when I was in there, like a congregation.”
The troubled reality star also opened up about his tragic upbringing, which included witnessing his mother overdose on heroin at age seven.
“My mom OD’d on heroin, actually in front of me when I was about 7.”
And of course, Nida discussed his wife, Phaedra, who is rumored to be contemplating divorce.
“I really admired everything that she did as a woman. I think that we have lost sight of the true picture, which is that we did take an oath to God and we did build a family and a brand. Whatever has come of this reality fiasco, we have had two beautiful children, and at the end of the day, I only wish her the best.”
As for whether or not he feels their marriage will last, Nida says:
“I can’t say if it’s going to last. But I hope that it does…I definitely love her. I’ve grown to love her more.”
As you may recall, just a few weeks ago Phaedra also discussed the divorce rumors in an interview and her carefully selected words seemed to also fuel the rumors.
Catch Apollo’s full interview in the May issue of Sister 2 Sister.
Last month, the estranged wife of Next singer Raphael “Tweet” Brown came forward and made stomach-churning allegations about the 90s singer—including that he’s a deadbeat father who abused her during her pregnancy. She also petitioned for a restraining order against him. Shortly after Juliette Gil-Brown’s accusations hit media outlets, Raphael came forward and pretty much denied all of it. In fact, he actually accused Juliette of harassing him.
“I never kicked her in her stomach when she was pregnant with our son, who’s now 10 years of age, nor when she wasn’t with child,” he said. I never punched my ex-wife in the face, I’ve never grabbed my ex-wife by her neck or pushed her to the floor.”
“I have peace in my life and I have moved on. That chapter is closed and I want her to respect my position and do what’s best for our children,” he added.
The former couple has since taken their feud to the court of law. In response to Juliette’s accusations, Raphael has filed a 250-page document in which he refers her as a racist, lying stripper. According to TMZ, Raphael is claiming that his estranged wife flew into a “jealous rage” after she saw photos of him on vacation with his girlfriend a while back and has been on a mission to destroy him ever since.
Raphael also claims that Juliette’s mother told him “the devil had taken over [Juliette's] soul” adding, “she’s crazy.” He also states that she changed her Facebook relationship status to widowed after threatening to slit his throat. As if all of that isn’t enough, he has also accused his wife, who isn’t black, of making racist remarks against him including that he’s “a dirty n****r” and saying he’s “the reason n****rs” are dying of AIDS.”
TMZ reached out to Juliette regarding Raphael’s allegations and here’s what she had to say:
“He is a dirty n****r … because he fits the stereotype of what a Black, ghetto person is.”
It’s been nearly ten years since Eric Benét and ex-wife, Halle Berry split. However, unsurpisingly, such a high-profile relationship is difficult for the public to forget. Their divorce was plagued with rumors of cheating and conflicting reports that pegged Benét as a sex addict. The “Sometimes I Cry” singer has since moved on and found love in Prince’s ex-wife, Manuela Testolini, but he admits that the Halle chapter is still very much a part of his story.
“You’re never able to take the players out of the story, but in anybody’s life, there are personal hurdles that’ll make you wonder ‘How did I get here?’” he told theGrio about his split from Berry. “But on the other side of that, if you stay positive, if you keep moving, if you stay still and try to observe, absorb and learn as much as you’re supposed to learn in that pain, there’s a whole lot of evolution and light on the other side.”
While the divorce was clearly a challenging time in his life, the 47-year-old father says the experience taught him a lot.
“One of the great things about that time was learning to shut out the noise … Realizing what’s important to me is my family, my daughter and my career. It was a way to learn how to shut everything and it doesn’t really matter what you think and I know what the truth is. I’ll keep moving forward, ” he added.
As for whether or not he still speaks to his Academy Award-winning ex-wife, Benét says:
“No we haven’t stayed in touch. I just keep moving forward and being happy.”
And speaking of difficult times, he also opened up about losing his daughter’s mother in 1993 following a tragic car accident.
“My daughter, India, for most of her life I was a single father,” he explained. “Her mother passed away in a car accident when she was 15 months old. As you can imagine, there’s really no way to describe how [that feels]. There was so much loss and fear and trepidation about the future. Am I going to be able to do this. I mean, I had this amazing partner to parent this beautiful person with me. At the end of the day, I had my family, I had God and I had this amazing little baby.”
Thankfully, Benét says life is certainly looking up these days.
After two decades of marriage, it looks like another celebrity couple is throwing in the towel.
Sara Kapfer, wife of actor Cuba Good Jr., filed for legal separation with the L.A. County Superior Court yesterday, TMZ reports. It’s unclear specifically what caused Sara to want out of the 20-year marriage, but in her divorce filing, she cites irreconcilable differences. The estranged couple share three children together, two of which are minors. She is requesting joint physical and legal custody of the children. According to court documents, child support arrangements will be determined at a later date.
Cuba and Sara were high school sweethearts. They officially tied the knot in 1994. Just last year the actor gushed to “The View” hosts about celebrating his 20-year anniversary with Sara.
“She has been changing to this other woman that I have to introduce myself to every few years,” Cuba explained during the 2013 interview. “And thank god I’ve fallen in love with each one. It’s true. I’m lucky that way.”
As sweet as that sounds, he did, however, jokingly add:
“I want to kill her sometimes.”
It’s unfortunate that these two couldn’t find something in their 20-year marriage worth saving, but maybe this decision is for the best.
‘Communication Will Save You Half The Drama:’ Christina Milian Offers Post-Divorce Co-Parenting Advice
Since calling out ex-husband, The-Dream, as a deadbeat dad a few years ago, singer and actress Christina Milian appears to be in a much better place. So much so, that during a recent appearance on “Good Morning America,” the actress and singer offered advice for co-parenting post divorce.
“Take a second and breathe. You know, have the best intentions. Pray on it,” she explained. “I think that communication will save you half the drama. You know, it makes things so much easier. And I think I learned that. I went to therapy early on in my divorce.”
Because she’s in a much better place since overcoming the initial hurdles of co-parenting in the wake of an ugly divorce, Christina says she’s in a position to help others.
“I feel like I’m in a good place, then all the better to just put it out there and hope that it can help someone else. She added, “We all figure it out,” she said. “Sometimes, you just got to take it, take the lesson, and learn, and know that this happened for a reason.”
As for when she feels is an appropriate time to introduce your children to a new love interest, the engaged singer says definitely take your time.
“I think it’s very important to take your time when introducing a new person into your child’s life. You want to make sure this is going to work out so you’re not introducing them to a new person over and over again because you never know who is going to be the one.”
Despite the unique dynamic of their blended family, Christina says four-year-old Violet has a great understanding that she’s deeply loved by both her mother and father—even though they’re not together anymore.
“My motivation at the end of the day was making sure that my daughter had two parents that were in her life consistently, She’s a really smart girl and I think she has a healthy understanding of knowing that mommy and daddy are no longer together but we both love her.”