If you have a family member, coworker, neighbor, or someone you must regularly interact with who constantly brings you negativity, you need to protect your good energy. Here are ways to navigate interactions with negative people.
“It is crucial to learn to change the channel when you find yourself drowning in a sea of invalidating thoughts."
Maybe you have always struggled to make friends, or go on dates, because you think there is something fundamentally broken about you and people can sense it. You think there are the people who are healthy and normal, and those who are not. And you believe you fall into the second category. You think that healthy, normal people sniff out the abnormal ones right away.
Sometimes critical people excuse their behavior by saying they have been the victim of similar behavior their whole lives. Essentially, they try to say someone was critical of them and it was good for them. But they are probably in denial of the fact that it was not good for them. In fact that it has made them bitter and cynical. And now they are just passing on the abuse
Unfair, backwards, misogynistic—you say, “That’s just the way things are.” If you tell yourself that, then you’ll never make any attempts to change things. Things will stay just as they are, but not because they were unchangeable, but rather because you did nothing about it.
Translation: “I’m sorry I can’t join the gardening club you’ve invited me to but I actually work for a living unlike you who is a stay-at-home-mom or kept woman”. That’s the type of negativity some women who choose not to work can face, all for sending an innocent invitation.
The truth of the matter is, life isn't always fair but we are responsible for going after the changes we want to see.
Cynics have their purpose for sure. Sometimes, when you’re flying too high or letting your fantasies get the best of you, it’s good to talk to your cynical friend so she can bring you back down to earth. But don’t forget that you probably act as your own cynic plenty enough. If negative thoughts have […]
It’s easy to project negativity to others but it takes a huge measure of humility and strength to take a look in the mirror.