6 Lies Women Tell To Make A Man Like Them

November 14, 2011  |  
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The most common reason anyone will give you if asked why their relationship didn’t work out is that the other person changed. What is the most common way a man changes? It turns out he is not as sensitive has he played himself off to be in the beginning. What is the most common way a woman changes? It turns out she is a lot more sensitive than she played herself off to be. And suddenly, you have two people who pretended for a while to meet at a middle ground—at a this is exactly how sensitive I am ground. But you begin to drift away from that middle ground, in opposite directions, when you both realize you are not satisfied. You are not getting what you want. And you get a breakup. Here’s what women say to seem less sensitive in the beginning (even though it all falls apart in the end):

I like lots of personal space

You don’t want him to fear that you’re going to want to be with him every night. You don’t want him to worry that you’ll be texting him constantly. You want to make it seem like you have your own life, and that you even opt to be away from your guy a few nights a week. And maybe you do have a very full life of you own but, let’s be real. When you fall for someone, you just want to be with them.

I have tons of guys friends

You want the guy you like to think you understand men. So, your one male friend who you maybe hang out with every two months is suddenly your best friend. And you have a lot of stories of fun things you and that friend did together. But you were hoping it was something special — and he was enjoying the fact that it was not. (Oh, Ashanti…)

I’m fine with keeping it casual

“If you’re busy, doesn’t bother me. If you’re around, great.” I call BS. Because that line usually is BS. Girls pretend, for a certain amount of time, that they look forward to that once-a-week text message. That it doesn’t bother them that it’s taken three weeks for the guy to make solid plans with them again. They think that if they wait it out, the guy will develop feelings for them and suddenly realize he wants to start texting 5 times a day and hanging out multiple times a week. But, it doesn’t work that way. And sooner or later, women get fed up. While fooling themselves.

I’m not sensitive

You make jokes about being insensitive. If a friend (or the guy you like) complains about something, you say “you’re problem, not mine.”  When he cancels on you, it’s totally cool. In fact, everything is “totally cool” in the beginning. But eventually, you realize that you don’t appreciate having a guy cancel on you, or forget to call, consistently over a long period of time. That’s cool. But don’t pretend it was ever fine.

I do care

He is talking about art, or movies, or sports or something that you could not care (or know) less about. But you pull whatever small knowledge you have on it out of you’re a••, and a little acting to seem enthusiastic so that he won’t realize that his biggest passion is something you feel nothing about. But you can’t hide that for long. You certainly can’t hide it for an entire relationship. And let’s admit the truth — you’re truly bored.

Oh, it’s just my ex

When you’re getting to know a guy, you pretend a few times when you get a text or call that it’s your ex. You say it in a dismissive, slightly annoyed way like “Ugh. Why can’t he just get over me already?!” to show the guy you like that other men have been crazy about you. While that may be true — at this point it’s all for show! Just admit that’s really your cousin, and that you are more sensitive and more invested in where this thing is heading than he might be. Even if that is so, and even if it turns out badly, you won’t be deluding yourself. Lack of self-awareness is never a positive quality.

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