Ready For A Ring? Find Out What Men Look for When Choosing A Wife

November 13, 2011  |  
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Believe it or not, women aren’t the only one’s with a checklist of traits they look for in a partner.  Although it may not be written down, men have a mental list of what they will and will not tolerate in a relationship as well.

Take a look at these traits men look for in a wife….

1. Honest communication

Honest communication is top priority for men. They want a woman who answers questions honestly, and even volunteers information. They want a woman who can see the truth, stand up for themselves and tell it like it is.

2. Secure and Confident

Men want a woman to choose them out of want rather than out of desperation.  Women tend to jump in and out of relationships more often than the opposite sex, because they crave attention and adoration.  In the same way, men need to be wanted and needed by their partners, but they want their partners to have a separate identity. It’s important that women have their own friends and interests.

3. Manipulation-free

Men want no manipulation of any kind and typically have little tolerance for games. They do not want to read their partner’s mind or try to interpret signals.  Women often hide their true feelings by deliberately returning phone calls hours after checking their phone, or pretending to be interested in other men to “keep their true crush begging for more.” Newsflash, men don’t want to fight for a woman who appears to be uninterested or worse, interested in another guy.  If you like a man, make it known through your attention and time.  This does NOT mean you should drop the L-word on the first date.  Simply return his calls in a timely manner.  Show him that he is the only one you want to be with and avoid checking out other guys.

4. Emotionally stable and mature

Men want a woman who can stand on her own two feet and develop herself personally.  They want a woman who is emotionally mature, but does not lack emotions all together.  It’s important to handle emotions responsibly and know when they are getting the best of the situation.  Men tend to be practical beings, compared to women who tend to base their decisions on emotions instead of facts.  Usually as women mature and age, they stop depending on emotions and start to find a way to be practical, without losing their nurturing and emotional edge.

5. True commitment

Fidelity and loyalty, is an absolute must for men. In fact, men want a woman who does not have a “roaming eye” and who can wholeheartedly commit to the relationship.  The misconnection here is that women think that all men want is sex, and that men will leave a relationship for the next prettier face. Women think men cannot be trusted to be faithful and that when the going gets rough, they leave.  Be aware of subtle cues at the beginning of a relationship that might prove that you have a wanderer on your hands.  What does he do with his spare time?  What kind of influence does his friends have on him?  Is he easily susceptible to peer pressure?  These questions challenge his confidence and true being and allow you to determine if he is a great catch, or if you should throw him back with the fishes.

6. Nurturer

There is a reason why so many men, when little boys, ask their mothers to marry them.  Men love to be nurtured.  Many women treat men in ways that diminish their egos, making them feel inadequate. Men would rather have more praise, more acknowledgment of what they do right, more acknowledgment that they are great guys who are loved and appreciated.

7. Not trampy.

Men want a hot woman to show off, not a tramp who might hit on his friends or embarrass him in front of his family.  Remember, this is marriage material, not dating material.  In the beginning of courtship, a woman should refrain from making any comments that are overtly sexual because she is still establishing who she is and making her first impression.  This doesn’t mean no flirting, it just means that too much overly sexual language will land you a man for that night, that’s for sure, but not for the long haul.  It’s important to flirt, smile and laugh while you give him attention, and even touch his arm or leg, but nothing too aggressive. When the relationship gets more serious, and presumably more intimate, sexual touch and public displays of affection are more appropriate and will less likely scare off a man.  Of course every man is different, but remember to always be yourself when you meet a guy.

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