Some say love is one of the most addictive drugs out there. So when you get a tiny dose of it, it’s only natural to want more and more and more. Even if it’s not quite yet love—even if it’s just mutual like and infatuation—you can sense that love might be around the corner, and even that possibility is powerfully addictive. It’s no wonder so many people dive into relationships too quickly. In fact, I’m going to be so bold as to say that many people are in the wrong relationship simply because they moved too fast before getting to know the person, and got attached without gathering all the necessary information. Then they find themselves with some sort of false, purely hormonal bond to someone who they’re really not all that happy with. Some people won’t break up because they figure, “We’ve already come this far” but they got that far by going too fast. Here are the incredible things you learn when you take a relationship slowly.