When men think about going on a date, they think about things like, “Will she think I’m funny? Will she be as cute in person as she is in her dating profile? Will she like the place I picked out?” Women think about a lot of those similar things and they wonder, “Will he try to harm me?” Yup. That’s one pretty major issue that men don’t need to worry about quite as much. Can you imagine, on top of all the other things you’re concerned about on a first date, worrying about your physical safety? Well, women do. All of the time. Which is why men should add, “How do I make her feel safe?” to their list of pre-date concerns. If your date doesn’t feel at ease, she won’t laugh at your joke, no matter how funny it is. If she’s worried about her safety, she won’t appreciate the cute date spot. Here are body language tips to make your date feel safe.
Only lean in as far as she does
If you’re sitting across from your date, only lean across the table as far as she does. If she is sitting back against her chair and you’re leaning halfway across the table, she can feel like you instantly want way more from this interaction than she does. You almost make her feel like you’re lunging towards her. Lean in as far as she does, so she feels that you’re just as engaged as she is: not more, and not less.