Remember, whatever happens, it happens with him
Would you rather go on your dream vacation by yourself, or on a still really nice vacation you and your partner settled on, with your partner? If you think about it, your real dream vacation involves your partner. Hey, your real dream life involves him! So if you’re making compromises that mean you get to be together and get along, you are winning. There is no version of reality anymore where you can actually be happy getting what you want if it makes your partner unhappy.