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Do you have friendships that have lasted more than three years? How about five? Ten? If you’re a grown woman, you should have at least a couple of friends you’ve known for a decade, and several you’ve known for five years. You’ve spent quite a bit of time on this planet, and you are (or should be) past your destructive, selfish college and high school behavior. If you’re a woman pushing or past 30, you’ve had plenty of time to stabilize, know who you are, know what you need in a friendship, and cultivate lasting friendships. If you are in that age range but seem to lose friends left and right, it’s time to face the fact: you’re the common denominator in those broken friendships. In other words, other people aren’t the problem…So, are you the reason your friendships don’t last?

 

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You see favors as currency

When you do someone a favor, you keep that in your back pocket. Next time you want something from them, you remind them of the favor you did them back in the day. This type of behavior makes people not trust you, and feel that your relationship is more an exchange of services than an actual friendship.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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