Parents disapproving of their children’s partners is an issue as old as time. It’s something that most people fight with their parents about, and it’s usually the hottest topic of discussion at holiday dinners. It can be incredibly frustrating when your parents don’t approve of your partner—it can feel like they don’t approve of you. Your partner is an extension of yourself, so when your parents criticize him, it feels like they’re criticizing you and your sense of judgment. Some parents come in subtly, dropping hints that your partner isn’t perfect; others will state it to your face — and his — in no uncertain terms. However they do it, it can make your blood boil. But they have their reasons. Here is why your parents are so critical of your partner.
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You’re their investment
Practically speaking, they’ve spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on food, clothes, medical bills, driving lessons, piano lessons, and more for you over the years. They’re not going to let some guy turn you into a house wife, or his receptionist, or a backpacking hippie. Can he continue to grow their investment or not?
