The Unspoken Rules Of Moving In Together
Moving in together means getting to know each other very well. When you get on each other’s nerves, you can’t run away to cool off. Not to mention that all of the little quirks that were once cute can become a pain in the butt. No one will tell you these things about sharing space with your significant other ahead of time, but we thought they were important for you to know. The key to keeping things copacetic is keeping the following things in mind.
Keep the Bathroom Door Closed
We’ve all seen the adorable rom-com moment where he’s brushing his teeth and she pops in for a little tinkle.
That is not cute in real life.
The mystery is what keeps things sexy in the long run. Not everything that goes on behind closed doors is adorable to see. Unless you’re ready to answer “Babe, why did you close the door this time?” with “Waxing something personal,” it’s better to keep a closed-door policy from jump.
This Isn’t Going to Last Forever
And by “this,” we mean you cooking from scratch every night, and him not leaving his socks all over the floor. It takes a few months for things to get real, but it’s about working together to adjust, accept your differences, and roll with the punches.
Everybody Needs a Night Out
A little time apart, even when you don’t need it, can keep things fresh before you end up with cabin fever.
About the Sex…
It’s going to ebb and flow no matter how much you’re in love. Just let things cycle from “afternoon delight” to “accidentally fell asleep by myself on the couch.” It always comes back around to the good stuff. Don’t feel too much pressure to show up and show out every night.
Know What Shows You Watch Together
Watching your show alone instead of recording it when he is working late? It’s not that big of a deal, but it’s still sort of looked at as betrayal in the rules of living together.
Don’t Call Him on His Crazy and He Won’t Call You on Yours
We all have habits that even the people who love us find annoying. Call him on his and he will have one for you waiting in the wings.
Unless it’s worth a real conversation, just let the crazy way he puts the dishes away slide and he won’t bring up the weird way you chew your nails when you watch TV.
These Are Your Sides of the Bed Forever
It’s best to choose the side with the outlet next to it now.
You’re Each Other’s Best Friend
Even if you both already have someone with the title of BFF in your life, your spouse is your best best friend. That’s why even the best intentions to get out and see your friends turn into the ninth Netflix night in a row with your honey.
You Yin, He Yangs
It sounds like it makes sense to plan out who’s going to do what in your home, but whoever is more OCD about order is going to clean more, and whoever leaves first will likely take out the trash. Just let nature take its course and you will find a system that works.
Keep the Big Secrets
There are things you shouldn’t tell anyone about the other person. The fact that he screams like a little girl when he sees a spider is one of those things you should keep to yourself.
It’s Better to Say When It’s Not Working Now
Moving in together doesn’t always work out, and it’s better to call a spade a spade as soon as you see it. Sleeping next to someone after things have gone very bad is a recipe for disaster.