Sex Acts That Have To Be Discussed Before Execution

September 6, 2016  |  
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Spontaneity can definitely keep one’s sex life entertaining, but when it comes to certain sexual acts you simply don’t want to be caught off guard. It’s one thing to show up in the bedroom with just a t-shirt and panties on — it’s an entirely different thing to whip out a whip on a brotha with no warning. So, in the interest of keeping your sex — and love — lives intact, we’re issuing this friendly reminder on sex acts you must discuss before executing.

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Name calling

If calling a woman out of her name turns you on (for some reason) you better get clearance before throwing out words like b-tch or slut all willy nilly. Your turn up might get turned all the way down with an uncarefully chosen word.

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Threesomes

Hey babe, surprise! I brought another man/woman home! No, it does not work like that. See intro on bad surprises if you don’t understand why inviting a third person into one’s bedroom always requires a conversation — preferably before you’re at the bar and alcohol has you thinking you’re interested in something you’re really not.

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Handcuffing

A lot of couples play with the idea of one person completely taking control in the bedroom, and handcuffs might even come into play so that one party can’t stop the other from doing whatever it is they want. But not everyone is intrigued by the idea of their physical movement being left up to another person who may or may not be responsible enough with the key to those cuffs.

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Blindfolding

See handcuffing slide. Vision impairment isn’t at the top of everyone’s keep it sexy list. A lot of us want to see what’s going on on top, behind, and inside of us. You don’t get to just slip a blindfold on someone and keep it moving.

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Anal penetration

Fellas, under absolutely no circumstances is it ever okay to insert your member into this hole (or any for that matter) without a prior discussion. Anal and vaginal sex are entirely different beasts. You must make sure your woman is okay with this act and that you’re properly prepared — in more ways than one.

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Salad tossing

The butt is just one of those areas you don’t play around with unless you’ve been given explicit permission to do so. That rule stands whether you’re sticking or licking.

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Recording

There’s nothing sexy about jail time — record someone without their knowledge and that’s what your future will look like.

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Swallowing

If oral is being given, a man cannot just assume a woman wants to swallow his ejaculate. Not only must he issue a warning when it’s getting close to that point, he also needs to ask where you prefer he excrete semen.

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Facial Ejaculation

See prior point. You cannot, for lack of a better term, bust on a woman’s face, without being given permission to. Otherwise, it’s just disrespectful.

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BDSM

Taking control in the bedroom is one thing, yelling at your partner like a subhuman sex slave is quite another — and most won’t take too kindly to the latter coming out of the blue. And it goes without saying, you absolutely cannot gag or bind someone without a prior discussion and an agreement for a safe word, should things go too far.

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