Some men have to grow on you. Sometimes you meet a guy who is a little rough around the edges, but underneath a few shenanigans and weird habits, there is a diamond in the rough. But other times, all you find underneath a few rough edges are more rough edges. And even though he’s adorable, or the sexual chemistry is right, everything else is just wrong.
If you’re dating a guy who’s giving you these red flags about himself, chances are the relationship is headed right toward a slow dance on your last nerve. It’s only natural to be tempted to want to make it work. He’s a nice guy, you say. And sometimes something that looks wrong manages to turn out right after all.
But when things are this wrong in the beginning, it’s hard to ignore the feeling that these personality quirks and deja vu moments are going to turn into things that you can’t stand.
You’re Last Relationship Ended Over the Same Issue
History likes to repeat itself, especially in relationships. But sometimes we don’t realize we’re dating the same type of man until he hits the same nerve our ex did.
You Cover for Him
If you’re hiding his questionable behavior from your friends and family it’s a sign that you find it unacceptable too.
His Friends Irritate You
Birds of a feather tend to flock together. But sometimes, when you are in love, it can be hard to see the annoying qualities that his friends have also happen to be qualities of your significant other.
You’ve Thought “This Just Isn’t Going to Work”
If every fight makes you say “I’m done,” you probably need to be.
He Calls You Too Much
It’s nice to be admired, but this one says more about how little you feel for him. This bugaboo is going to bug you to death if you let him.
His Personality Is Just a Little Too Different
You want a man to take charge, but he rarely does. These kind of personality differences only get worse over time because even though he’s nice, it’s clear that you just want someone different.
You Give and Give
And he takes and takes. Unless you’re a saint, a relationship with no balance is bound to make you resentful eventually.
He Picks at You
It started as one or two sarcastic comments that you brushed off. But when he gets bolder with his slick statements, it’s going to be quite evident that he needs to go.
His Behavior Is Unacceptable
You can learn to put up with a personal pet peeve. But if his major problem is behavior that everyone around you agrees is not OK, chances are you will be of that same opinion sooner or later.
Being With Him Felt Better Than Being Single
We’ve all made bad decisions after a dating dry spell or a bad breakup. But there’s a reason why most rebounds don’t work. Eventually you will realize that you’re better off alone.
The Sex Is the Best Part
You can only tolerate someone’s foolish behavior for so long — even if they are amazing in bed.
He Always Thinks He’s Right
And you think he’s dead wrong. Whatever the issue, you’re unlikely to agree on it.
You Have to Explain His Behavior Before People Meet Him
“He’s cool, he just _____ a lot. But we’re working on it.” When you find yourself warning people about whatever you need to throw in that blank space, it’s a sign that his behavior is about to be a big problem.
You’re Biting Your Tongue
Not talking about an issue tends to make it worse instead of making it go away. And if he’s the issue, holding your tongue won’t help him go away any faster.