“She just wants good-haired babies.”
Hmmm. This is a tough one, because I can’t speak for every black woman who procreates with a rainbeau is seeking to water down her blackness. But to be fair, I bet there’s a little some of this going on. Colorism is a real problem in the black community that has gone mostly unaddressed. Dark-skin and kinky hair have are by and large not embraced by our community, and yes; we all know where it came from. But must we continue the slave mentality? Are we really that weak?
As for me and mine, my first child was born out-of-wedlock to a gorgeous dark-skinned black man and I just KNEW we were going to have a beautiful dark-chocolate baby. But you know what? She came out with skin like caramel and sandy brown hair with blond streaks. Go figure.
I think most black, educated and upwardly mobile black women are just looking for partners who will love and cherish them. Black women want to get married, dammit! It’s our right, and white men (or non-black men) are the ones who are actually stepping up and marrying dark, kinky-haired black women, why you mad, son?